Well, I'll be home NYE. Today I helped my friend that died's daughter pack up everything in the house, and tomorrow I'm going to do the same. What a job!

Oh, Chai, if you have those credit card statements where HE ran up some debt, include them.

I don't have them. I've asked my atty to have him get them. I'm tired of doing all of the work. So far, I've seen nothing that he has produced except copies of our joint checking account where he circled everything that I did including charges to restaurants and vet bills for the dog. Of course he circled it and noted that it was "Chai's dog." And those statements were during the time that he was our sole support. Duh. He's stalling on producing anything regarding OP. I'm having a discussion with my atty Monday. I'm getting sick of this. I can see how people give up things just to get out....

Happy New Year, CL. It will be a better one.

Hi CL,

Sorry about the paperwork.


If there was some uncertainty before, sounds like Lovebank is getting DEFINITIVELY in the red.

How serious are you about approaching WS to negotiate settlement?

...because if ever you get there, the next step is where I am at...

How do you 'negotiate' with a WS without losing your mind? And will it be worth it?

When your lovebank has closed for business, it just might be worth it. You have to at some point unless you want the courts to decide who gets what. You know what matters to you. They don't.

I'm 99% there Cinders. I'm sending the message this weekend. After seeing him in court and having no butterflies, I think I can do this. It's a means to an end. I'm going to suggest dialog via email. If he gets hostile I guess I just have to take a withdrawal from my 401K to pay the atty fees. Heck, I might as well deplete that too.

:happynewyear:

Chai

BTW, I found another knitter. Maybe we could round up an MB yarnathon!

Blanket finished. Will wash, pack, and send.

Cinder,

You are awesome girl!!!! That is so very sweet of you to do that. Shower is tomorrow, so I'm doing all of the last minute stuff now.

don't forget - equal parts of Pineapple-Orange-Banana juice and Squirt makes a great punch.

I have some booties out of the dotted yarn. I was going to make a cap but I don't think I have enough yarn. I think I was right on the gauge for the blanket. From so much intensive knitting, my hands feel stiff today. I think they are overworked. Movie-thons can help you finish projects. I should do laundry today and tomorrow then mail the blanket on Monday.

I am praying for all of you....and a bunch of other people too.

Hi CL,

See you're busy with the baby shower... just dropped by to say HI!

Another 'healthy way' of showing your support to DD and in welcoming the 'newborn' that you can be proud of.

CL

Chai, I haven't been here so much the last weeks so I just read about your day in court. You did really well! Sorry about the fuss with the paperwork, I hope negotiation works.

Happy New Year and good luck at the baby shower.

Shower went well and lots of nice gifts were received. Cinder, I couldn't find Squirt so used Ginger Ale. Anyway, the baby has many nice things. I don't have any idea at this point what will happen, but I just have to cross bridges as I get to them. I don't know of anything else that I can do at this point.

I decided not to write to WH. I wish I could just make up my mind once and go with it. I hate this wishy-washy thing that I do, but one day I feel this way, the next, that way. UGH.

Bottom line was the atty feels I have a good chance at support, and due to length of the M a good chance at getting what we are asking for. Who knows though. But based on that, I figured why mess it up by contacting WH to negotiate. We bombarded them with paperwork which will probably take his atty a while to look through, so cha-ching goes his A's cash register. Maybe when WH starts feeding the hungry cash register, he'll reconsider all this. Especially since there are no Swiss or Cayman bank accounts there. This whole thing is so stupid. Of course, this was all caused by me I told my Atty that I want this DONE. Hearing now scheduled for February.

Not to be pessimistic, but I still don't think I've reached bottom. I still have a way to go.

You too, eh? I found out today that the next hearing is scheduled for February rather than the middle of January as first thought. It's likely that we will get a trial date at that time, too.

Let's roll!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Charlotte

Well Char, I hope that we both come out of this alive and well. I don't think my atty is a shrewd as yours though, so my hearing could go either way. The only thing Shiny on my atty is the top of his head. Hopefully you go first and I can learn a few things to use at mine.

We WILL!!



Yeah, you're right. Sure wish you had mine...then there would be no doubt as to which way it would go!!!



You have my sympathies.

But I am: because....OMG! That was SO

FUNNYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY!!!!!!!!!!!



It's pretty early in the month so there's a good chance I will go first. I'll be happy to share!!! All the gory details!! (Oh yeah, and any knowledge, too. )



Charlotte

Hi CL,


I think that's wise, as no good can come from decisions made when in a 'wishy-washy' mood, and especially if your A feels you have a good case.