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Guess this means you’re sorry You’re standing at my door Guess this means you take back What you said before Like how much you wanted Anyone but me Said you’d never come back But here you are again Cuz we belong together now Forever united here somehow You got a piece of me And honestly My life would suck without you Maybe I was stupid for telling you goodbye Maybe I was wrong for tryin’ to pick a fight I know that I’ve got issues But you’re pretty messed up too Anyway, I found out I’m nothing without you Cuz we belong together now Forever united here somehow You got a piece of me And honestly My life would suck without you Being with you is so dysfunctional I really shouldn’t miss you, but I can’t let go Oh yeah Cuz we belong together now Forever united here somehow You got a piece of me And honestly
Recovered marriage, recovering self, life gets better everyday
I'm gonna organize some changes in my life I'm gonna exorcise the demons of my past I'm gonna take the car and hit the open road I'm feeling ready to just open up and go
And I just feel I can be anything That all I might ever wish to be And fantasize just what I want to be Make my wildest dreams come true
I'm on my way Out on my own again I'm on my way Out on the road again
When I remember back to how that things just used to be And I was stuck inside a shroud of misery I felt I'd disappeared so deep inside myself I couldn't find a way to break away the hell
When I'm feeling down and low I vow I'll never be the same again I just remember what I am And visualize just what I'm gonna be
I'm on my way Out on my own again I'm on my way Out on the road again
I'm on my way Out on my own again I'm on my way I'm gonna breakaway
This is me and my H's "special song". It refers to the temptation of cheating, I never really noticed it until after the A happened. I couldn't listen to it for a long time, but I can now. It's a really pretty song so take a listen if you get a chance
Power of Two by the Indigo Girls
Now the parking lot is empty Everyones gone someplace I pick you up and in the trunk Ive packed A cooler and a 2-day suitcase Cause theres a place we like to drive Way out in the country Five miles out of the city limit were singing And your hands upon my knee
So were okay Were fine Baby Im here to stop your crying Chase all the ghosts from your head Im stronger than the monster beneath your bed Smarter than the tricks played on your heart Well look at them together then well take them apart Adding up the total of a love thats true Multiply life by the power of two
You know the things that I am afraid of Im not afraid to tell And if we ever leave a legacy Its that we loved each other well Cause Ive seen the shadows of so many people Trying on the treasures of youth But a road that fancy and fast Ends in a fatal crash And Im glad we got off To tell you the truth
Cause were okay Were fine Baby Im here to stop your crying Chase all the ghosts from your head Im stronger than the monster beneath your bed Smarter than the tricks played on your heart Well look at them together then well take them apart Adding up the total of a love thats true Multiply life by the power of two
All the shiny little trinkets of temptation (make new friends) Something new instead of something old (but keep the old) All you gotta do is scratch beneath the surface (but remember what is gold) And its fools gold (what is gold) Fools gold (what is gold) Fools gold
Now were talking about a difficult thing And your eyes are getting wet I took us for better and I took us for worse Dont you ever forget it Now the steel bars between me and a promise Suddenly bend with ease The closer Im bound in love to you The closer I am to free
So were okay Were fine Baby Im here to stop your crying Chase all the ghosts from your head Im stronger than the monster beneath your bed Smarter than the tricks played on your heart Well look at them together then well take them apart Adding up the total of a love thats true Multiply life by the power of two
this is an old song from Galway in Ireland about not giving up. My DD and the band sang this for our blokes at the mess party welcoming them home. And as we all know here fighting affairs is a battle as well.... and OF COURSE its for us girls too
Don't give up till it's over, don't quit if you can The weight on your shoulder will make you a stronger man
Grasp your nettle tightly, though it will burn Treat your failures lightly, your luck is bound to turn
Don't give up till it's over, don't quit if you can The weight on your shoulder will make you a stronger man
Look at the autumn flowers how they wither and fade With nature's hidden powers, next year they'll be re-made
Don't give up till it's over, don't quit if you can The weight on your shoulder will make you a stronger man
Watch the full moon rising, like a ghost of the sun Oh, dawn will be more surprising, when a new day has begun
Don't give up till it's over, don't quit if you can The weight on your shoulder will make you a stronger man
Don't give up till it's over, don't quit if you can The weight on your shoulder will make you a stronger man
Life may feel as if you are constantly getting kicked on a daily basis, living is about picking yourself up each day and going on and on and on regardless.
Wonder what happened to good ole Introvert. At first I thought he had been replaced by Dude. (-:
God's Blessings,
Say
Me, BW-57 FWH 54 4 kids and 4 grandbabies between us In recovery since D-day, May 28,2007 FWH never onboard the MB boat but still clinging to the side. One day at a time by God's grace.
Unforgettable by either Nat alone or him and Natalie. Was my wedding song. Aghh!
Unforgettable, that's what you are Unforgettablethough near or far Like a song of love that clings to me How the thought of you does things to me Never before has someone been more
Unforgettable in every way And forever more, that's how you'll stay That's why, darling, it's incredible That someone so unforgettable Thinks that I am unforgettable too
Unforgettable in every way And forever more, that's how you'll stay That's why, darling, it's incredible That someone so unforgettable Thinks that I am unforgettable too
Don't pray for God to guide your footsteps unless you are willing to move your feet
Me BH 55, WW 40, M 12 yrs, 3 Boys 19, 10 & 8. Separated Sept 08 DDay Dec 08 Plan A Mar 09 Plan B 16 Nov 09
So the music thread question (that isn't getting answered on the dating thread) is:
What is the ultimate romantic song to dance to?
If - by Bread
If a picture paints a thousand words Then why can't I paint you? The words will never show The you I've come to know
If a face could launch a thousand ships Then where am I to go? There's no one home but you You're all that's left me to And, when my love for life is running dry You come and pour yourself on me
If a man could be two places at one time I'd be with you Tomorrow and today Beside you all the way
If the world should stop revolving Spinning slowly down to die I'd spend the end with you And, when the world was through Then, one by one, the stars would all go out Then you and I would simply fly away
What cha wanna be - when you grow up What cha gonna do - when your time is up What cha gonna say - when things go wrong What cha wanna do - when you're on your own
There's a road - long and winding The lights are blindin' - but it gets there Don't give up - don't look back There's a silver linin' - it's out there somewhere Everybody wants an answer - everybody needs a friend We all need a shinin' star on which we can depend N' so tonight we're gonna wish upon a star We never wished upon before - (to find what you're looking for) There'll be times - in your life Ya when you' be dancin' n' sh*t - but you ain't gettin it But don't get disillusioned - no, don't expect too much Cuz if what you have is all you can get - just keep on tryin' - it just ain't happened yet Everybody wants ta be winner - everybody has a dream We all need a shinin' star when things ain't what they seem So tonight we're gonna wish upon a star We never wished upon before - (gotta get where you're headed for)
Everybody wants some kindness - everybody needs a break We all need a shinin' star when things get hard to take So tonight we're gonna wish upon a star We never wished upon before
Married 7/10/04 Me: BS 32, WW:26 D-Day 12/23/09 Separation 12/28/09- OM Revealed 1/12/10 WW cuts most contact with me/Starts seeing a different OM 2/2/10 Divorce papers served 10/15/10 Divorce finalized 11/9/10
I felt this before now I feel it again No matter how hard I try this feeling won't end
So I pretend you're here by my side tonight on this lonely ride I keep telling myself that
(chorus) Life goes on while you're miles away and I need you Time goes on as night steals the day There's nothing I can do
You heal up my wounds I tasted your tears You spilled out your heart so I let out my fears
But one fear I kept to myself Was how I prayed that you'd love no one else like you're saying you love me
(chorus) Life goes on while you're miles away and I need you Time goes on as night steals the day There's nothing I can do
If you only knew how much I miss you
When my mind plays these tricks on me It shows me things I don't want to see That's why I tell myself I keep telling myself just take another piece of me
(chorus) Life goes on while you're miles away and I need you Time goes on as night steals the day There's nothing I can do
And this last mile I travel with you
Married 7/10/04 Me: BS 32, WW:26 D-Day 12/23/09 Separation 12/28/09- OM Revealed 1/12/10 WW cuts most contact with me/Starts seeing a different OM 2/2/10 Divorce papers served 10/15/10 Divorce finalized 11/9/10
Let it out, let it out, fill the empty space So insecure find the words and let it out Staring down, staring down, nothing comes to mind Find the place, turn the water into wine
But I feel I'm getting nowhere And I'll never see the end
So I wither and render myself helpless I give in and everything is clear I breakdown and let the story guide me
Turn it on, turn it on, let the feelings flow Close your eyes, see the ones you used to know Open up, open up, don't struggle to relate Lure it out, help the memory escape
Still barrenness consumes me And I feel like giving up
So I wither and render myself helpless I give in and everything is clear I breakdown and let the story guide me I wither and give myself away
Like reflections on the page The world's what you create
I drown in hesitation, my words come crashing down And all my best creations burn into the ground The thought of starting over leaves me paralyzed Tear it out again, another one that got away
I wither and render myself helpless I give in and everything is clear
I wither and render myself helpless I give in and everything is clear I breakdown and let the story guide me I wither and give myself away
Like reflections on the page The world's what you create The world's what you create
Let it out, let it out
Married 7/10/04 Me: BS 32, WW:26 D-Day 12/23/09 Separation 12/28/09- OM Revealed 1/12/10 WW cuts most contact with me/Starts seeing a different OM 2/2/10 Divorce papers served 10/15/10 Divorce finalized 11/9/10
Brian adams --everything I do Look into my eyes - you will see What you mean to me Search your heart - search your soul And when you find me there you'll search no more
Don't tell me it's not worth tryin' for You can't tell me it's not worth dyin' for You know it's true Everything I do - I do it for you
Look into your heart - you will find There's nothin' there to hide Take me as I am - take my life I would give it all - I would sacrifice
Don't tell me it's not worth fightin' for I can't help it - there's nothin' I want more Ya know it's true Everything I do - I do it for you
There's no love - like your love And no other - could give more love There's nowhere - unless you're there All the time - all the way
Oh - you can't tell me it's not worth tryin' for I can't help it - there's nothin' I want more I would fight for you - I'd lie for you Walk the wire for you - ya I'd die for you
Ya know it's true Everything I do - I do it for you
For those whose heart feels like its bein ripped in two
Artist: Jackson Browne Album: The Pretender Title: Here Come Those Tears Again
Here come those tears again Just when i was getting over you Just when i was going to make it through Another night without missing you Thinking i might just be strong enough after all When i hear your footsteps echoing in the hall
Baby here we stand again Like we've been so many times before Even though you looked so sure As i was watching you walking out my door But you always walk back in like you did today Acting like you never even went away
Well i don't know if i can Open up and let you in baby Here come those tears Here come those tears again
I can hear you telling me How you needed to be free And you had some things to work out alone Now you're standing here telling me How you have grown
Here come those tears again Now you'll tell me how to hold them in Here come those tears Here come those tears again
Some other time baby When i'm strong and feeling fine maybe When i can look at you without crying You might look like a friend of mine But i don't know if i can Open up enough to let you in Here come those tears Here come those tears again Just walk away I'm going back inside and turning out those light And i'll be in the dark but you'll be out of sight
When the day is long and the night, the night is yours alone, when you're sure you've had enough of this life, well hang on. Don't let yourself go, everybody cries and everybody hurts sometimes.
Sometimes everything is wrong. Now it's time to sing along. When your day is night alone, (hold on, hold on) if you feel like letting go, (hold on) when you think you've had too much of this life, well hang on.
Everybody hurts. Take comfort in your friends. Everybody hurts. Don't throw your hand. Oh, no. Don't throw your hand. If you feel like you're alone, no, no, no, you are not alone
If you're on your own in this life, the days and nights are long, when you think you've had too much of this life to hang on.
Well, everybody hurts sometimes, everybody cries. And everybody hurts sometimes. And everybody hurts sometimes. So, hold on, hold on. Hold on, hold on. Hold on, hold on. Hold on, hold on. (repeat & fade) (Everybody hurts. You are not alone.)
Married 7/10/04 Me: BS 32, WW:26 D-Day 12/23/09 Separation 12/28/09- OM Revealed 1/12/10 WW cuts most contact with me/Starts seeing a different OM 2/2/10 Divorce papers served 10/15/10 Divorce finalized 11/9/10
This song has been my favorite since the first time I heard it, back in high school. Right after D-Day, I listened to it a lot, and it kept me going, reminding me of my ultimate goal. It sums up what we're all really after, anyway.
"Bargain" by The Who written by Pete Townshend
I'd gladly lose me to find you I'd gladly give up all I had To find you I'd suffer anything and be glad I'd pay any price just to get you I'd work all my life and I will To win you I'd stand naked, stoned and stabbed
I'd call that a bargain The best I ever had The best I ever had
I'd gladly lose me to find you I'd gladly give up all I got To catch you I'm gonna run and never stop I'd pay any price just to win you Surrender my good life for bad To find you I'm gonna drown an unsung man
I'd call that a bargain The best I ever had The best I ever had
I sit looking 'round I look at my face in the mirror I know I'm worth nothing without you And like one and one don't make two One and one make one And I'm looking for that free ride to me I'm looking for you
I'd gladly lose me to find you I'd gladly give up all I got To catch you I'm gonna run and never stop I'd pay any price just to win you Surrender my good life for bad To find you I'm gonna drown an unsung man
I'd call that a bargain The best I ever had The best I ever had
BH 52 FWW 50 S26 S24 EA 3/07-1/09 PA 5/07-10/08 NC finally established after eight false starts: 1/23/09 Final Version of Events 6/09 In a solid Recovery, and lucky beyond belief.
Every night I say a prayer In the hopes that there's a Heaven And everyday I'm more confused As the saints turn into sinners
All the heroes and legends I knew as a child have fallen to idols of clay And I feel this empty place inside So afraid that I've lost my faith
Show me the way, show me the way Take me tonight to the river And wash my illusions away Please show me the way
And as I slowly drift to sleep For a moment dreams are sacred I close my eyes and know that there's peace In a world so filled with hatred
That I wake up each morning and turn on the news To find we've so far to go And I keep on hoping for a sign So afraid I just won't know
Show me the way, show me the way Bring me tonight to the mountain And take my confusion away And show me the way
And if I see a light, should I believe Tell me how will I know
Show me the way, show me the way Take me tonight to the river And wash my illusions away
Show me the way, show me the way Give me the strength and the courage To believe that I'll get there someday And please show me the way
Every night I say a prayer In the hopes that there's a Heaven
Married 7/10/04 Me: BS 32, WW:26 D-Day 12/23/09 Separation 12/28/09- OM Revealed 1/12/10 WW cuts most contact with me/Starts seeing a different OM 2/2/10 Divorce papers served 10/15/10 Divorce finalized 11/9/10