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I got him his first BB gun

An official Red Ryder carbine-action 200-shot range model air rifle with a compass in the stock?



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I hope this goes away as more time passes,

I am sure it will.

Maybe you need another trip to Colorado?


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Hey, BC! The party sounds great!

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so getting time together is almost impossible at this point.

I sure know what that is like. I feel constantly pulled between HRG and DDs.


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I am being haunted by what's happened to me. I'm not getting any ENs met and that gets my brain racing. This isn't GFs fault. It's EXWW's. I'm having trouble keeping my brain settled. All these horrible thoughts enter my brain despite GF doing nothing to warrant these thoughts. It helps that I recognize where they're coming from and that allows me to overcome them, but it doesn't stop them from coming back. I hope this goes away as more time passes, but I do wonder if this is something I'll fight forever.

I'm right there with you, BC. There's times I think I should just cut HRG loose. It doesn't seem really fair to only be partway in it, although he says he is okay with it.

I checked HRG email the other day. My H cheated on me, what can I say? There was a message from his exwife.

It was too friendly for my taste. But it wasn't OVERLY friendly, KWIM?

But what do I expect? Does everyone have to be enemies once they divorce? Are there any feelings there that I need to be concerned about?

At my age, there are very few men that have not yet been married and won't have exes to contend with.

I don't know how to deal with that and not feel that I'm being cheated on every time he has contact.

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things are going well. I keep myself pretty busy. My job's fairly secure, I'm financially stable, and I get plenty of time with family and friends.

hurray Good for you, amigo. I have faith that the rest will work itself out eventually.

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Originally Posted by chrisner
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I got him his first BB gun

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I hope this goes away as more time passes,

I am sure it will.

Maybe you need another trip to Colorado?

They were out of those. Seriously. Had to settle for the ole 350 feet per second Daisy. Although, I've never seen a bb actually travel 350 feet out of a Daisy.

I haven't traveled since my last trip to Denver, so you better believe I'm due for another. It doesn't look like it will happen for Easter though. In the last month I've spent $300 on taxes, $350 on DS's Bday, $200 for GF on VD and $200 for counseling on DS (he's doing ok, but is STILL struggling with #2 on the potty). I got a notice from DC the other day needing $325 in fees for summer camp by Mar 20 and DS will probably go to another couple counseling sessions which will be another $200. I've also pledged $200 to GF who has been invited on a 2 week medical expedition in Indonesia this summer(this is actually a down payment on a sugar momma grin)

Please don't add all that up, cause it makes me want to cry cry

So I'm a bit strapped at the moment, BUT, I get a raise in Apr, so summer's lookin better and better. hurray


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Originally Posted by wildhorses74
I checked HRG email the other day. My H cheated on me, what can I say? There was a message from his exwife.

It was too friendly for my taste. But it wasn't OVERLY friendly, KWIM?

But what do I expect? Does everyone have to be enemies once they divorce? Are there any feelings there that I need to be concerned about?

At my age, there are very few men that have not yet been married and won't have exes to contend with.

I don't know how to deal with that and not feel that I'm being cheated on every time he has contact.

I think is actually somewhat of an issue with GF.

I do get along with EXWW just fine these days. GF thinks it's great, but does seem to be worried about it.

GF's from N.O. and went back for Mardi Gras (these were plans made from before me) Of course I'm fairly freaked out by this because her friends want to hang out in the quarter. I was on Bourbon for Mardi Gras when I was 18. I left because of how disgusted I was and never went back.

DS's Bday party included EXWW and her people. She has a thing about him not getting 2 parties and it didn't bother me any.

When GF left for N.O. I half jokingly told her I was scared chitless, her response was pretty much that's how she felt about me spending the day with EXWW.

So we both did our best to set each other's minds at ease. Of course these things wouldn't be issues if we were further along and could be more apart of each others lives, but I guess it's a necessary crappy process that has to happen. So I'm chocking all this down and wishing a few more months would pass in the next few days.

One thing I'm realizing is regardless of how much time and healing you've gone through. These are dating issues that will pop up in any new relationship and you're gonna have to deal with them sooner or later if you ever want to have a relationship that lasts more than a few months.


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One thing I'm realizing is regardless of how much time and healing you've gone through. These are dating issues that will pop up in any new relationship and you're gonna have to deal with them sooner or later if you ever want to have a relationship that lasts more than a few months.

and this is why I haven't cut HRG loose yet. This isn't really an issue about HIM specifically.

It's about me and my insecurities.

We need to talk about a few different things but are alone so seldom that it's hard to have "heavy" talk when you may not have time to finish. KWIM?

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Of course these things wouldn't be issues if we were further along and could be more apart of each others lives, but I guess it's a necessary crappy process that has to happen. So I'm chocking all this down and wishing a few more months would pass in the next few days.

I think, like you said, more time needs to pass. When/if we get further along in the relationship, these things will have to be worked out. At this point, there is no real commitment. Who am I to say how close he can be with his cheating ex-wife?

Thanks, BC.
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We need to talk about a few different things but are alone so seldom that it's hard to have "heavy" talk when you may not have time to finish. KWIM?

Boy do I ever. The only alone time we get is on lunch dates. So we have an hour together in a public place. Not much time and not a good place for "heavy" talk. Plus, I don't want to waste the little bit of time we have on that, I want to enjoy it.


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Exactly. It's a vicious cycle.

You don't have enough time or it isn't the right moment so you don't have the heavy talk. We'll hold off until we are further into the relationship.

But if you don't have the heavy talk, you can't determine whether the relationship will go further.

sigh

It's crazy making.

Fox

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