Restraining order.

That phone call sounds bogus to me.

Why would an officer care if you helped pay the rent?

It almost sounds to me like he (whoever he was) was letting you know your WW was moving out and that you would now be responsible for the rent.

well there would be no reason for a RO. And if that is the case I won't pay it, and go to live wherever my daughter is.

Any comments that are NOT assuming the worst? not that its bad to do so.

She just got pi$$ed of and will probably be home in just a couple days.

Apparently she told him about how I had recently "forced" myself back into the house, yet I wasn't paying rent.

hopefully true.

I was just trying to find out if you had actually seen an officer.

I agree totally w/ Mel, you have upset their A greatly! They are trying to frighten you! Intimidate you.

If they had a better plan, they'd carry it out.

They don't.

Your WW and DD will be back. Try not to worry.

If an officer calls you again, be sure to ask for his name and badge number.

I agree with Marsh - if you have his name I'd go further and call his station and see if they received a complaint about you. Then I would complain about someone from your wife's work impersonating an officer.

good call!!

well, there is only one station here in town. so I could call them and find out.

Do it!

Find out if there was a complaint made against you.

I think it was real, but I will call in the morning to make sure.

If she does try to keep my daughter from me, then what should I do? or if they decided to move(which I don't think happened)?

Zambo,

Here come the 2x4s. When the he77 are you going to wakeup, grow a pair, and take some serious action to protect your rights as a father?

I've advised you about the danger you are in and you're not getting it.

This isn't some stupid game. You're in serious danger of losing your rights as a father.

I commended you for moving back in. Great move. So now she's gone off and done the "in a battered shelter" thing.

This is typical crap that women pull on good men to make themselves out to be victims. You should have been on the phone like yesterday with a lawyer.

Time to file for custody and demand that your daughter be returned to the marital home. Time to play frickin hardball.

Only growing a pair of cajones will get you results with your WW.

And why the he77 were you not throwing this man out with the fear of God that he wasn't going to have a pleasant exit if he ever showed his face in your home again?

Time to man up, zambo. You're in big danger of being painted as some psycho abuser and you'll be lucky to get supervised visitation with your DD over false abuse claims. They're coming.

Now you need to contact a lawyer, like today. Like as soon as you're done reading this.

This is no joke and you're in danger and are oblivious to it because you're in denial and hoping she's going to wakeup. Well she's not.

Time for you to wake up!

I have not thought for one moment that this is a joke, or a game.

I am wondering how it will look to the court when I am barely getting myself back on track. I just started school and will be living on student loans, and 18 hrs a week of work.

plus how will it look to the court if I threaten this man? he most likely will testify that I am a violent person. I am going to let him know that if he comes to my house again, that he will be escorted out by the police.

Zambo,

You would be WELL SERVED to take pom's advice to heart and ACT on it.

He has the WISDOM that comes from EXPERIENCE ... you do not!!!

I've read some of your thread and I have to tell you ... you are not helping yourself ... in fact, its just the opposite ... your (in)actions are actually damaging your future.

It appears that you tend to over-think things until you come up with an excuse to justify doing NOTHING ... and then convince yourself that doing NOTHING is in your best interests. Self-delusion is a powerful force for many BH's to overcome.

Time to step back and REALISTICALLY evaluate the situation and how successful you have been doing things YOUR way.

I have been taking the advice given here. But it wouldn't be wise to act too hastily. I have made many mistakes from doing just that.

... and just WHO is advising you to act hastilly???

pom advised you to man up and lawyer up ... and you are doing neither ... in fact, you are actively AVOIDING CONFLICT.

SORRY, but it doesn't work that way ... you are in the middle of CONFLICT up to your eyeballs ... you can stand up to the conflict and protect yourself or you can be run over by it ... its your call.

Zambo,

You are in a much better position now that you moved home. At least you can't be accused of abandoning your DD.

Definitely get yourself a lawyer.

What state do you live in?