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I'll just refrain on this forum. IRL, my boss uses it, my supervisor uses it, I use it, my coworkers use it...


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Any news on the job front, Guy Smiley. I saw the news this morning and they said how many people your company is laying off. Kinda scary.
Thanks for asking, Fox.

What is.

Today many of my favorite co-workers were told their positions are being eliminated. But wait, there's more. From the remaining 17 of us, there are 8 jobs going forward. I don't know whether I'll be one of them, and I'm not sure whether I want to be one of them.

If the job market were better, I would probably welcome being laid off, because I'll get a decent severance and could probably use the change. At the moment, not so much. We'll see.

Not a great day.

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I've been laid off a few times, and somehow things work out. Unemployment doesn't pay much, but it helps keep you from starving.

Will pray for you....


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I'll be fine, CL, but thanks. I'm so well off I shouldn't even complain. I admit that I've gotten a bit used to it, though.

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Job market here isn't all that much better SD, but I do have a few friends at Lilly in Indy if you're at all interested in the frozen midwest if worse should come to worst.


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Thanks, James!

I'd have to change my screen name.

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Originally Posted by sdguy038
Thanks, James!

I'd have to change my screen name.

And lose your Chargers jersey... a dude could get lynched 'round here for less..


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Hey SD!

Don't feel alone with the job sitch! My company is 'restructuring' as well. Last Friday 20 high level mgrs were let go, and that was just the tip of the iceberg! Today, Drac is fearing for his job, and I am a bit uncertain of mine.

You have absolutely the right attitude about it. Count your blessings and know that no matter what may come, you will be fine.

While I love the Midwest,,,,,today i would not recommend it. 9 degree high today in Columbus! It was ZERO with -15 windchill when I left St. Louis this morning!!!


BURRR!!!!


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Record lows where I'm from in Illinois. Brrr.

A friend and I sneaked out of work this afternoon and drove to the beach for a walk. We saw whales. And dolphins.

Stay warm, everyone.

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Jealousy ensues...

I want a beach!... and temps above 0


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Houston still has thousands of jobs...

And we have a beach, if you stretch the use of the word a little. smile

I saw a car pull up once in Galveston from North Dakota, I think, and the whole family got out and stood on the Seawall and looked out at our brown sand and browner water, and the look on their faces...if I didn't feel so sorry for them driving all that way, it would have been hysterical.

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Houston still has thousands of jobs...

And we have a beach, if you stretch the use of the word a little. smile

I saw a car pull up once in Galveston from North Dakota, I think, and the whole family got out and stood on the Seawall and looked out at our brown sand and browner water, and the look on their faces...if I didn't feel so sorry for them driving all that way, it would have been hysterical.

WOW!!

In Louisiana, we go to Galveston cause that's where the beaches are nicer rotflmao rotflmao rotflmao

Louisiana, where the marsh mud meets the ocean :RollieEyes:


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Today, we had a departmental meeting....my employer 's revenues are running about $81,560,000 PER MONTH below budget. I work in state government. If things don't turn around soon, it's gonna get uglier. My department was able to cut about 15% from the budget without losing any people. But, unless things improve, we could be looking at losing people. I'm starting to worry. Single mom with two teenagers....not good!

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Well, my sales are way down from last year at this time, and I thought they were low last year!! I'm looking at the possiblilty of closing my doors if things don't pick up.

I won't even get unemployment. Bummer.


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Chai & SD:

Someone asked me why I do taxes...

Thare are only two sure things in life: "Death and Taxes"

And I don't like dead bodies..... :MrEEk: shocked

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Someone asked me why I do taxes...

Thare are only two sure things in life: "Death and Taxes"

And I don't like dead bodies.....

LG

LOL! Lucky for me that there will also always be 'trash'! ha!

SD, what's up mi amigo? How about an update?


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Chai, am I gonna need to do another yarn run next month....and bring my dd to change diapers?

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Bug-bombed!

Things are okay. Work is a drag because of the impending layoffs. The music is playing, and we know that there are way fewer chairs than co-workers, but it will be a few weeks before we know exactly who's in and who's out. It's stressful, obviously, but I know that I'm not going to go hungry or have to live under an overpass or anything like that, so I try to keep a healthy perspective.

The drop-off issue with the SCQ is still hanging despite my having asked whether I should go ahead and schedule mediation. I saw my IC the other day and read her the whole exchange, and she politely wondered whether it might just be easier to go ahead and do the exchanges the way the SCQ wants. (Calm down, Fox, I'm not going to.) I speculated that maybe I was making such a big deal out of the exchange thing because it gave me an opportunity to say some of the things about POSOM and the affair that I've been wanting to say but haven't.

I'm still not sure what I'll do. I'm not going to back down on going to POSOM's house. I might be willing to give up the other Sunday exchange if it's what the kids want. The issue won't get forced for another couple of weeks, so I'm letting it simmer.

I went on another date over the weekend--this time with a woman recommended by a friend. All of the dates have been really fun--nice and relaxed. I think I'm doing well so far: I would be happy to go out with any of them again but don't really see any of them leading to a serious relationship.

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Originally Posted by sdguy038
. I saw my IC the other day and read her the whole exchange, and she politely wondered whether it might just be easier to go ahead and do the exchanges the way the SCQ wants. (Calm down, Fox, I'm not going to.) I speculated that maybe I was making such a big deal out of the exchange thing because it gave me an opportunity to say some of the things about POSOM and the affair that I've been wanting to say but haven't.

I read your thread although I rarely comment but I wondered this as well......

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I speculated that maybe I was making such a big deal out of the exchange thing because it gave me an opportunity to say some of the things about POSOM and the affair that I've been wanting to say but haven't.

...if so, SD, would you say it was worth it?

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...All of the dates have been really fun--nice and relaxed. I think I'm doing well so far...

grin

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