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Your WH hates you so much that he will not buy a crib for his OWN GRANDSON because you have him? You know, I really hate him right now. This has to be the record for a wayward. I would say more, but the little voice in by head is screaming at me to take the high road. Chai-
Maybe you will get the chance to tell your WH to go reproduce himself face-to-face. He has sunk to a new form of WH low.
You might ask the social worker at the hospital or call a local Pregnancy Resource Clinic or other pregnancy support ministry to see if you can get a baby bed-even just a loaner. Thanks JT. I didn't think to ask the social worker if there would be anything available there. I'll do it when I talk with her tomorrow. I was going to say something else, but I'm taking the high road. High road, high road, high road. Closing my eyes and tapping my heels three times.....
BS - me 56
XWH - 57
12/25/06 - Dday - WH promised NC. Plan A in effect. Thought we were in recovery.
6-3-07 - Dday#2 Found out NC never took place and A never ended. Found MB NC promised again, but WH would not write NC letter.
9/07 - Dday #3. Still lying and sneaking around. Plan B implemented
WH wants nothing to do with me
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Let's have an MB online shower!  No, I'm not kidding.... :MrEEk: If you could send me a link to an address- I would love to send you something to help care for your grandson. Duration of care does not matter- it is still the poopy diapers that need a changin all the time!  He must be a fighter! Maybe we (anyone who wants to participate that is) could mail things so they all arrive on the same day-- What a kick!  If I check my basement- I bet I may have things there too. Hey, MB community...anyone else in?  nancymassoll@hotmail.com
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Great idea Barbie... another is that she could "register" at places like Target or Walmart and I think arrangements could be made for her to pick up the gifts once they are purchased.
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And yes, I can use some help. I have no idea how to prepare formula. I had to learn this too when my 1st GD was born. I believe it's one scoop of formula for every 2 ozs of water. At any rate, the directions are right on the can. (It's cheaper to buy it by the can (dry formula).)
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Me - BW/BS Age: 56 Married 7 1/2 years Divorced Jan 2010
EA began '07 PA began Jan '08
Found out July 2008 Found MB September
Plan A 09/03/2008
I filed D 10/31/2008
Dark Plan B began 11/09/2008
Emerged from Plan B 11/15/2009
Court date (final) scheduled for 12/16/2009
Divorce Final January 2010
Plan B recommenced upon Divorce
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I am in for the online shower.
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Me too. I like the idea of her registering at a store where she can pick it up.
Chai - I spent all day Saturday at the hospital where another of my friends had twin girls by C-section. No drug or other problems. I kept thinking about you.
What should have been such a happy time was stolen from you.
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That Target thing sounds really good. It would save everyone heapum big $$$ in shipping! How does it work, exactly? (I mean the buy-the gift-but-giftee-pick up part of it.) hooey! I'll figure it out.  What'd ya say, Chai-- Let me set up something?  I imagine you would have to register at a Target.. and send me a address so I could let people know where (If they had good baby lefties) to send their stuff to ya. If you don't want the shipping address posted, <on the board,> I could post my e-mail and send it along with the "cyber guest list". and invitations! Yeah, hallmark.com! wooo hoooo! anyone who would like to guest list: nancymassoll@hotmail.com
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I'm in! I'm in! Count me EEEEEEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It's hard for me to get to Target where I am. We do have a WM here, though. Ugh to both, LOL! But they do come in handy! Plus, Target sued me. I haven't been back since. LOL!! (Yeah, you guessed it, it was Gray related!) I tossed that ball to Shiny...he caught it and took care of it. But I still haven't been back to Target. Anyhoo...COUNT ME EEEEEEN!!! Charlotte
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I looked at Target.com and I don't know if they have a way for her to pick up gifts. But what they do have are e-gift cards. Here's what they say: e-GiftCards
e-GiftCards are available for Target.com and make a great gift in a jiffy. e-GiftCards are available online in any amount between $5 and $5,000. You can personalize the e-GiftCard with a special message as well.
Please note that e-GiftCards are for online purchases only.
We’ll e-mail the e-GiftCard right to your gift recipient, and we'll send you an e-mail confirmation once you have placed your order. The gift recipient can use the e-GiftCard immediately. For more about e-GiftCards, use the links on your left.
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Babies-R-Us has the same thing. They'll send the giftcard directly to Chai. Barbie, count me in too! My email address is below my signature.
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I looked at Target.com and I don't know if they have a way for her to pick up gifts. But what they do have are e-gift cards. Here's what they say: e-GiftCards
e-GiftCards are available for Target.com and make a great gift in a jiffy. e-GiftCards are available online in any amount between $5 and $5,000. You can personalize the e-GiftCard with a special message as well.
Please note that e-GiftCards are for online purchases only.
We’ll e-mail the e-GiftCard right to your gift recipient, and we'll send you an e-mail confirmation once you have placed your order. The gift recipient can use the e-GiftCard immediately. For more about e-GiftCards, use the links on your left. I dunno. Target used to have the little kiosks where you could go enter the info and get the latest update of gifts that had been bought, etc. for showers & weddings, etc. BUT--I haven't been there in many moons so I don't know if they are still offering this service. Charlotte
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They do but I don't know about getting the gifts to her. I guess if people wanted to pay for shipping you could still do it that way. I think most department stores have registries now.
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Oh my goodness. I am in tears to think that so many people who don't even know me could be so thoughtful and generous. I don't know what to say. Barbie, thank you so much for offering to do this. I don't know how I could ever thank all of you or how I could ever repay you. I have never been so touched. Thank you so much. I'll email my info to you.
My Dd did register at Target. We got many of the clothing items, bottles, wash cloths and towels, but not much else. We did get some diapers and wipes, but I have a feeling I'll blow through those in no time. I could always switch to cloth, but then my laundry becomes overwhelming.
Right now, I don't have anything to put him in. The BFs dad bought a car seat today so that I can bring him home from the hospital, and I can use that to sit him in but he can't sleep in it. Still working on trying to find a bed or small crib to use.
I feel a little overwhelmed right now with all of this going on. Then I got more discovery docs today from the atty. WH is now asking for stuff as far back as 1995. On the other side I have DD who is fighting with the BF, his parents, me, her friends etc. The BF is threatening to kill her and take the baby. You would never in a million years think this girl has a college degree. She is a 13 year old in a 27 year old's body. I'm beginning to think the drugs have fried her brain. I've got my business which has been pretty much ignored for almost two weeks now. I'm usually pretty strong and in control, but right now I feel like I could pass out and never get up.
So, tomorrow I could be bringing home a 5 lb newborn and I don't have the slightest clue on how I'm going to manage by myself. I may not see you all for a while.
BS - me 56
XWH - 57
12/25/06 - Dday - WH promised NC. Plan A in effect. Thought we were in recovery.
6-3-07 - Dday#2 Found out NC never took place and A never ended. Found MB NC promised again, but WH would not write NC letter.
9/07 - Dday #3. Still lying and sneaking around. Plan B implemented
WH wants nothing to do with me
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 Praying for you !!
I made it happen..a joyful life..filled with peace, contentment, happiness and fabulocity.
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Chai - just realized I got a call from you. I will call you tomorrow. I will send the package to your shop. Will try to get it in the mail tomorrow or Tuesday (when I have more money in my account).
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I'm totally in.....
How cool. I love baby showers.....
I love you Chai,
YES, I can believe WH. Because when I stop believing what they are capable of, I'm in endanger of them hurting me or catching me off guard. NOT HAPPENING.....
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D-day 5-14-07, WH moved in with OW
Plan A 9 months, DARK Plan B 3-17-08 until 3-2-09
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They do but I don't know about getting the gifts to her. I guess if people wanted to pay for shipping you could still do it that way. I think most department stores have registries now. They can't swap inventory with a store in her area and/or send the list so that she can pick the items up that way? KWIM? Oh yeah, but then they wouldn't make money on a handling charge...I'm sure they probably have a handling charge. Or they charge insane rates for shipping and keep the cream off the top. Yeah, I'm still yakkin', LOL! Charlotte
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You'll be GREAT, Grandma!!! No pun intended! ...........................pause....................... Okay, okay...pun intended!!!  Charlotte P.S.) The drugs probably DID fry her brain. I think they fried Gray's brain. He was already susceptible to cheating, though, even without the drugs, methinks. We talked about that at the Shiny powwow, too.
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