That sounds a little overly dramatic, my friend. Waywards usually are very emotional when they end an affair. That is expected, but I don't know about all this "26 year emotional coma" and suppressed feelings. I imagine you do feel grateful to your wife now that the truth is out there but I ain't buying you were in a coma or had "suppressed feelings." That is over the top, IMO.

It would sure be helpful if you could keep it simple and talk straight. We have Texans on this board, for God's sake! The less muddy the waters, the better.

Yeah, Texans are easily fooled.

shaddup, you trickster!!

[pssst, his name is not really Rusty Shackelford, it is a trick! ]

I'd say waaaay too long. Don't give her more time/relevance than she deserves.

hmmmmmmmmmmmmm

You know, the lovely Mrs Mile is still in her shock & disbelief phase - I wonder (doubt) if Mr Mile can be there for her and respond lovingly toward her during the coming tidal wave of resentment ....

Mr Mile - are you aware that there will be years - YEARS - of pain and resentment you will need to face?

The "average" time for the BS to recover from this is approximately the amount of time of your adulterous activity (doubled).

12 years - mas o menos -

You have been a "freeloader" your entire marriage - I just don't believe you have it in you to suddenly become a "buyer" -

file me under the "disbelievers" column

prove me wrong ---- please

ITA! Short and to the point.

MB is not a popularity contest, where the more posts you get, the better your advice likely is. Just because only a few posts have been made to her thread doesn't mean that she's not getting good advice. Also, an added advantage of her thread being where it should be rather than here in the General / Free-for-all forum means that it won't get "lost in the noise".

If I may .... who is the dirtbag?

And, what's with the years and years of hookers? Don't they count?

Everything except the years and years of hookers .... and what else?

I guess Steve H will be weighing on the NC, but I'm not sure it is needed for every scenario. I mean, once you have the sherriff over there and harrassment charges are going back and forth, I think OW gets the picture.

Sometimes maybe NC letters are actually just C....contact.

This is what happens when a lifestyle liar/manipulator goes to therapy.
They lie. :RollieEyes:

The MB forum members can expect the same level of honesty as the counselor/therapist.

TST - there is a vast difference between your situation and this man's.
You had years of being a good husband to SMB before your trolly left the tracks.

This man's trolly has never been on track.

Pep, You're right. He is a lifelong liar, and I'm not sure that his wife should stay in this marriage either.

I still come back to the thought that ALL can change, by nature I hate to count anyone out, but it would take a spiritual change of huge magnitudes BEFORE his wife should even consider the thought of returning to the M.

GM has destroyed every memory his wife has of their M with all the revelations of the past few days. I pray GM has done this because he wants to give his wife the truth she deserves, instead of him just selfishly clearing his own conscience.

I still believe GM needs to take a Polygraph so his wife has every piece of info that's out there confirmed and documented.

Even if sss does not want the M any longer, I still believe GM needs counseling with the Harley's in order to possibly help clean up the wounds he inflicted.

I believe GM needs to set up some legal documents that protect his wife financially, such as putting the home solely in her name, vehicles solely in her name, bank accounts with the majority of their cash solely in her name, etc. Something that gives her financial security TODAY.

These things and others may actually lead GM to a conversion within his hard of hearts, that could lead him to permanant change.

Whatever the outcome, my heart aches for sss.

Here's my thinking.
Yes, he might change. Odds are not in his favor, but it is possible.

However he's like the ocean, his wife could never turn her back on him lest she be knocked down again. He should never be trusted in this marriage.

Most WS's can eventually be trusted with time - not this one.
That is just too great a burden for most BS's to bear.

I am surprised that he gave her only ONE major sexually transmitted disease!

After all those years banging and boinking with other women and all the lies,, why why why why why would he want to stay married????? That is what i do not understand.

She may have HIV and not know it yet. There is a good chance of that.

Oh stop. :-) These guys have enough to think about right now. There isn't a "very good chance of that" :-)

I don't want to yell "jump!" to SSS in the middle of D-day. That advice is easy to find in the world, you don't need a MarriageBuilders board to find that.

From his W's post GM has a medical problem. Mods might consider locking this.

I agree - I will unlock it when GreenMile comes back.

GreenMile - just email one of the mods and ask them to unlock this for you.