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I am hearing that my WW is about to try and play hardball .She seems to think I have been playing dirty . I know I havent . She will soon try and force my kids to go with her for the 4 days . Where I live I have no recourse .I will tell them that I love them .My older son doesnt have to go but wants to look out for his younger brother . Where we end up is up to God and fate. I will support them no matter what their choice. For those reading from the States I wish I had your avenues for court action . Ultimately I can only let my kids that I love them and support them no matter what . I am not sure how I should repsond to my wife verbally if she come firing trash in my direction. Any suggestions ?
46 YO ,18 YO marriage ,DDay Nov 1/08 ,Affair start date July 23rd /08 /14 YO son ,7 Yo son /25 Yo stepson /23YO step daughter
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Rod,
Have you talked to a lawyer? I made a lot of assumptions before getting one and they opened my eyes to stuff.
Talk to one to really understand your options. I can't imagine that Canada doesn't have similar laws in the books regarding custody and kids.
I'd also make sure I explained to your sons that they never have to listen to OM or anything he has to say.
He's not their father and is the one responsible for the breakup of your marriage.
But please, talk to a lawyer.
D-Day 28 Feb 06
Plan D (Not by choice) - 24 March 06
DD6
DS4(Twin1)
DS4(Twin2)
She moved away with the kids April 08. I contested it and got a lot more time with my kids. She's unhappy that I want to stay involved in their lives and don't settle for being an "every other weekend" dad.
Never going to happen.
Ongoing personal recovery through the help of friends, family, and DC United Soccer!
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I have contacted my lawyer with the most recent events .She has suggested that I should be encouraging my children to see their mother .I asked them just recently if they would like to spend this weekend with her but they declined .I am not going to tell them that they have to see her .I fully realize that they need their mother .This most recent turn of events is incredibaly sad .It is no time to celebrate the fact that the boys dont want to see her but it is what it is . Created by her and paid for by her and unfortunaletly them as well .
46 YO ,18 YO marriage ,DDay Nov 1/08 ,Affair start date July 23rd /08 /14 YO son ,7 Yo son /25 Yo stepson /23YO step daughter
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I know I have done all I can .I know I have done the right things . I wish I could feel positive about the outcome of this sad saga . I am becoming numb to all the hurt but it is still there a huge underlying cloud on my soul that I cant seem to escape . I have to believe it will get better but it is SOOOOOO HARDDDDD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
46 YO ,18 YO marriage ,DDay Nov 1/08 ,Affair start date July 23rd /08 /14 YO son ,7 Yo son /25 Yo stepson /23YO step daughter
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My WW came tonight to "Take" her children to dinner at her place .They both chose ,oncea again ,not to go . It was very emotional mainly on her part .They both told her this was her doing not theirs or mine .I stayed quiet >I did get her to agree at the end that i was not responsible for this standoff .Her actions and choices were at the root.
46 YO ,18 YO marriage ,DDay Nov 1/08 ,Affair start date July 23rd /08 /14 YO son ,7 Yo son /25 Yo stepson /23YO step daughter
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