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Which part do you think is "unique"?
Welcome to MB. You might want to ask a moderator to move your post to GQII forum (click on the notfy button at the bottom of the post)
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Me: 56 (FBS) Wife: 55 (FWW)
D-Day August 2005
Married 11/1982 3 Sons 27,25,23
Empty Nesters.
Fully Recovered.
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I am so sorry you have had to join this club of ours. But you've come to a good place.
Is this A completely over? When did it end? Has NC been established? I mean total NC where she will NEVER see or talk to OM again? If not then NC MUST be established. Does OMW know about the A?
Has she answered your questions about EVERYTHING? I highly... HIGHLY...suggest a polygraph to get the truth about her LTA. I would not hesitate. If she hesitates, then she is still hiding something.
Read Surviving An Affair. You can get it on this site and in stores. It will help you understand the dynamics of A's. Read this entire site and learn about the tools that you need for a healthy M. Could you two possibly call the Harleys? They are the experts and you are facing a VERY long term affair. You will need a very good plan for R.
BW(me)
DDay EA 4/05
DDay PA 6/05
In recovery
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6 yrs was a very long time. His position may well be used to inveigle other young girls to site.
Sorry but work authorities must be notified. And yes, poor Mrs FWW sadly must be told.
But I, being poor, have only my dreams; I have spread my dreams under your feet; Tread softly because you tread on my dreams -Yeats
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You need to get a DNA test done for paternity.
You need to expose OMW.
You need to expose OM at work.
You need you and your WW to go NC with both the OM and OMW.
You need your WW to get a new job. There can not be total NC even when they work in separate buildings.
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Yes, but at some point in time she may need to know something of medical importance. If you're not her father, that could pose a problem. The DNA aspect isn't just about you.
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recovering with amazing fwh/bh 36
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EA Oct '07 - 7/2/08 (d-day)
NC 7/4/08
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EA/RA 6/'09-3/'10
NC 3/17/10
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