CHAI!

Don't forget to cover his winkie with a burp cloth when you're changing him. Baby boys can pee up their noses!

(giggle - remembering the time she forgot the cloth and her DS christened the wall behind him!)

Hi all,

Wanted to get back to my regular thread. You all are wonderful for helping me with such wonderful things. Thank you so much.

Saw a pic of the OW and WH and it really didn't bother me all that much. I was organizing all of grandchai's baby paraphenalia when I saw the pic of DD and WH, then WH and OW. I knew it was her instantly. Maybe it was the mullet that tipped me off.

So here's the story. Back when WH was in her state he talked a lot about his "best friend" who was OW's boss. His BF was engaged to a lady (call her BFL) who helped run the business. Way back, when I called OW, she told me that WH helped her get over the death of her fiance who died in a bike accident. I figured WH was a rebound relationship. Anyway, some months later, I found out that BFL was killed in the same kind of accident. At that point, WH was on a new assignment and I wondered if OW and BF might get together since their fiance's were both killed in the same kind of accident, the worked together, and had something to bond over. And since DD kept saying that OW had another guy, I wondered.

When I asked DD if that was OW in the pic, she said yes. I said that I thought WH wasn't with her anymore, and she said that they weren't together. She told me that OW and her new guy came out at XMas to see WH. When I asked who the new guy was, she said BF. That they both came to see WH.

That is wierd. So now OW is boinking WH's BF and they are all buddy, buddy? Something isn't adding up. DD could by lying, but when she mentioned BF by name, it did confirm my suspicion that the two of them got together. It just doesn't make sense that the three of them remain friends. How wierd is that? But who cares?


Gotta run for now. Will check in later.....

I would now like to reinterpret the smilies given to us by our illustrious moderators:

how we feel about waynerds -

us stomping on the idiot waynerds -

waynerds writhing in agony after we stomp them good & hard -

waynerd deep in fog of selfishness -

waynerds when they realize we don't need them -

Hey Cinder. You are a stitch. And yes, he left me for a bar biatch with a mullet. DD finally admitted that WH is back with OP. Says she was dating the other guy but is now back with WH. Said she didn't tell me because she didn't want to hurt me. When I saw the picture dated 12/08 I figured as much. I would bet I'll be the next one whose WS marries the OP.

It didn't fit that he could still be such a [censored] and not still be wayward.

Now it fits.

Boy SD, you hit the nail on the head. That has been in the back of my mind too. It just didn't fit, did it? Now I know.

Half an hour ago I was fine, now it hit me again and I'm going down that dip. D@mn, I was so good for so long. Even when I saw the pic, it really didn't shake me up that much. I guess it just hit me that the M really is over. Maybe reality just hit me in the face. Maybe it's just a normal trigger that happens once in a while. I don't know.

Does this roller coaster EVER end? I thought that I was so done with that.

Chai,

Hey, don't go sliding down the hill to the valley! As you say, it's a dip. And a much smaller dip than before, right?

I think it's perfectly normal to have that dip when it comes to the WH and the OP,,,,,especially when you thought it was over. That's a particularly sensitive trigger for most of us for a long, long time.

And how f'd up is that whole '3 friends' situation he's in?? Yowza! Yea,,,that sure sounds like a healthy relationship that will last forever - - NOT!!

Heck, just the fact that Drac's Ho2 was a part of the same 'group' as Ho1 makes me more sensitive about his involvement with her. Should it? Maybe - maybe not. Yet the fact remains is that it is true. And that's ok. Atleast I recognize it and that helps me to deal with it.

You have so much going on, too, that you are bound to be a bit emotional right now on top of any intel about WS and OP. Cut yourself some slack.

Go snuggle with GrandChai. There's nothing that soothes a soul like some baby cuddles!

Chai....why would you want the marriage you have had for the last few years?





That was a question my counselor used to ask me. Probably, you don't want that marriage. There are things about it you want, like the financial stability, the social and emotional status of being married, having someone around to help with things that need to be done around the house, ....stuff like that. But, look at the rest of it. Do you really want that back? Just like it was a year ago?

That's a big trigger, to be sure, but. . . you don't really want that guy back, do you? He's a louse. (Can you say louse on here?) He's had plenty of opportunities to redeem himself from louse status, and he continues to wallow.

You deserve better.

Try to let it go and stay busy with Granchai. Do you have a front carrier yet (e.g., Baby Bjorn)? Gotta have one of those.

Hey ya! You can say louse. You just can't say retard!

opz

Package will be there tomorrow, that should help w/ carrying - a friend gave me her baby sling that she will not be using again. It is in the box.

I just got off the phone with Chai. All is not good in Chai-Land. Pray hard for her. She needs it. Daughter needs it since she has not hit the bottom yet. Grandchai needs it.

Prayers going up for them...........

Rally all the prayer warriors!