Just talked to Chai. She is doing ok....sort of sleep deprived. It's not been easy but she is tough - in a goddessy way.

Anyway, dd is in rehab. Her dr found one that would ween her off her methadone rather than demanding she come in totally clean. This is GOOD!

DD has seen a psychiatrist who has put her on medication for bipolar disorder. Chai sees the daughter she knows....the one who can take some responsibiility (such as calling the cell phone company to ask if they can work with her on the bill she selfishly ran up - and folding laundry - and acting like she really wants to get her life together).

Things w/ dd have not been easy the last few weeks. But there is hope. DD's probation officer says they will work with her to find an appropriate job in her field of interest when she finishes rehab - if she does well. The baby can go to rehab w/ his mother in a couple of weeks if dd does well in the interim. (Poor baby screams every time Chai puts him in the car and starts the engine. He hates it!)

Chai's business is being audited byt the IRS. Her accountant thinks this is crazy because the IRS just doesn't do that this time of year. They suspect yucky xhtb is behind this.

So, keep praying. Keep lifting everyone up. There is hope. Lots of hope. But, a long way to go before the excitement is over.

And, if you are a knitter or crocheter, contact me! I have a great lead on a source for materials!

cinderella4mb ,,, @yahoo.com

Cind,

Thanks for the update on Chai. Be sure to tell her she is in our thoughts, and will keep praying that her DD does a 'turnaround' with her life.

Too babyChai doesn't like riding the car :RollieEyes:... I remember it being a lifesaver at times!

Yes, thank you Cinders for the update. Kind of holding my breath on DD's rehab, and furious at the possibility that WH might have sicced the IRS on Chai's business. The bibilical Job is no match for Chai and her trials.

Please do convey our love and prayers.

RHW

Hey all,

Thanks so much for checking in. Not much time, but here's a quick rundown:

After a horrible week with DD, she finally got in the rehab. She was diagnosed with bipolar disorder. It seems to be the "designer" disorder of the decade. The good thing is that the medication they put her on has changed her into the old DD that I knew. Amazing. It's probably a combo of that and controlled reduction of the methadone. She seems to be doing well, but we all know the true test is how she does when she gets out. Hopefully that won't be for several months. Anyway, chaibaby can go with her if she does well in a couple of weeks.

In the meantime, chaibaby is wearing me out. I'm going to try to get a friend to keep him for a day so that I can sleep. I realized that I needed a break last night when I had to potty with him on my lap. Oh well, turnabout is fair play. He pees on me all of the time.

My hearing is the first week in March, then the IRS audit is the next week. UGH. I have to spend the next two weeks sorting through paperwork. My accountant says that this is very unusual this time of year. Thanks WH.

My DD said that WH must have had a brain fart because he told her to tell me "hi." I just kind of grunted. Didn't say what I really wanted to say. He can take Miss Mullet and shove it.

And thanks again for all of the wonderful gifts. I got two thermometers, so I exchanged one and added a gift card to get a stroller. It is great. I took Grandchai to the mall over the weekend and he likes the stroller much better than the car. I just hate to put him in the car. Cinder has witnessed his unhappiness with a car ride. It's brutal.

Gotta run for now. Will check in later....

DD21 still falls asleep if I drive. It was a savior way back then.


Hang in there Chai. You are a very good person.




It's tough work to be a Goddess.

Hi CL,


Now...think back to a year ago...and where you are today....

Not in a million years, RIGHT!?!?!?

....nothing is ever CERTAIN in life...except maybe that one day we will all...DIE!

CL?....maybe you can now tell us if taking care of baby would be a good way to feel young again? I know...I get silly when I am tired! :RollieEyes:

Chai - My oldest (now 27) was the same way in the car. He SCREAMED from the minute I put him in the carseat until we got to our destination. It is very nervewracking, but good for their lungs.

Hang in there, and try to get a day of rest.

Hey, if I was could, I'd bring my daughter and we would amuse him or carry him off for a few hours so you could sleep and get some work done.

Today, I spent $100 unexpectedly for an MRI. No gas money today.

My baby knowledge is pretty rusty, but will he sit in the carseat if you bring it in the house? Can you get him used to the seat that way? Or is it the motion that offends him? Glad the stroller is working out.

Hang in there, Chai.

Chai

Heaven forbid Chai make 1c that WH can't get his hands on.

But at least you're in good health, right? And your DD is getting better. Grandchai is doing well, too, right?

Gee I don't think your WH has this kind of luck. Has he seen Grandchai at all?

Hi CL,


...other curious minds also would like to know.

...and no matter....you, CL, are stepping up to the plate for babyChai in time of need... and that's what we call around here... TAKING THE HIGH ROAD!


CHAI & BabyCHAI

Hey all,

Thanks for stopping by. I don't get much time to post but I do try to catch up on reading threads while I feed chaibaby.

Yes, WH has seen Grandchai once - the day he was born. He told DD he wouldn't come to the hospital until I was long gone, so he went over late that evening after I left. He has made no attempt to see or find out anything else about him as far as I know. OW has 5 grandkids, and you know how that goes. Seems another man's family is more important to him now.

Well, posting time just got cut short. He just woke up and is ready to eat. Will try to get back later...

Well, on top of everything else, I just got a letter from my atty that says WH has filed motion for award of damages due to Frivolous Conduct. Whatever the h3ll that means. I can't get hold of my atty because he is sick. I don't know why he didn't call me first to at least tell me this was coming.

I just want to get this over with and done because I am now DONE. At this point, I have no love left for this man at all. I almost despise him. I truly has amazed me to see exactly what he is capable of.

If you want to know exactly who you are married to...divorce them.

Typically frivolous conduct refers to motions or papers filed in bad faith or to tie up the process with delays. He probably is trying to get you to pay his lawyer and court fees.

But I am no expert.

Sorry Chai.

OY VEY call and ambulance the man is delusional and needs to be committed...

well, slut-ho the bar biatch isn't frivolous conduct? :twobyfour:

maybe he thinks being responsible is frivolous

Chai,



Hang in there lady. It sometimes seems the darkest before the dawn.



One day the exhaustion seems more than you can bear, and then you will end up having the best day every with your little one,,,and the energy comes rushing back to you. Just as their little faces change on a daily basis, these rough patches do NOT last forever.

Hang in there.

And as for WS - :twobyfour: :twobyfour:

Patience. Justice can be served to him, but it may take more time than you would like. Trust me,,,I know!!

Hi C,
I have kept up with your posts over time, sorry for all the pain your still enduring, dang.
glad you have a baby to make you smile, I have a 3 mos grandbaby, I can't imagine only seeing him one time!
Hug to ya!

Hi CL,

It's the part that gets to me the most about WSs....thinking that it's always and only about THEM... with no clue about the impact their actions/decisions have on others...never mind having any consideration for others!

...now, if they did, they wouldn't be waywards!

...and unless WS chooses to break the vicious circle.... those around him are...powerless to do anything, except do the best we can to protect ourselves and look out for our needs and those we love the best way we can.

Sorry about the latest crapola from your WS, CL. :RollieEyes:

Sounds like you got 'taking care of babyChai' under control? ... more or less?