I hope your wife learns that she will be very alone in the future. Common sense. If you desert the ones you love. They won't be there for you. Cats in the cradle.

But there were guys to screw.
and men to do.

When you coming home mom,
"I don't know when"
But we'll get together then.
You know we'll have a good time then.

And when they hung up the phone. It occurred to them.....

They didn't want anything to do with her.

I hope my WW is starting to learn something .I know ,up until this point, she wasn't able to accept any of the pain ,blame, consequences or results of her actions .She had blocked out everything other than her happiness created by this new love crap in her little "Happy world" . A part of me so dearly wants to see the same amount of pain that I feel showing on her face .This has started to happen only now 3.5 months after Dday . I am troubled by the idea of the right time to help my kids re-enter her life .I know they need her but will wait until they vocally tell me that .Then I will try and suggest that they go visit with her .Under Canadian law I cannot prevent her access .I have not done that .They can see her when they want .They just dont want to see her. I am trying to do the right things for me , for them and in some ways for her. This sucks trying to balance everyones needs .

She has put them through this for 3 and a 1/2 months? In truth your kids are actually needing her less and less. She left them too.

When my (I say my now instead of our) 13 year old refused to go with her she told him "I didnt leave you boys .I left the marriage.He told her "You left us all ,you left everyone .You didnt just leave Dad you left everyone .Words far beyond his years .Out of the mouths of babes.

He obviously has his fathers moral compass.

Once again my WW called yesterday finding a cool , no cold , reception from her kids .She then asked me to tell them that she would be coming to my house to visit as they obviously didnt want to visit her at her apartment . This I told her was up to her to tell them not me .Handing the phone to my older son she got a cold ,justified , response of "You hurt everyone " .It isnt where we see you .We dont want to see you ". A similar response came from my younger son . I have contacted the counsellor from their school and will have her make contact with them for support . YOU REAP WHAT YOU SOW !!!!!!!!!!!!! She has cut off all her support and is now adrift in the cespool she created .God help her .

A united front. I know it's not you're doing, but the three of you give each other strength. The bible says "a cord of three strands is not easily broken". I don't know how long she can keep it up. It must be agonizing for her.

They have been with me by their choice since Jan 24th at 6pm .She has access to them whenever she wants .I know they need their mother but until they want her I am not going there .As my 13 yr old said to her recently "If you are my mother than you had better start acting like my mother ".

Hi Rod,

Haven't heard from you in a while. How are you doing? How about an update.

Sorry .I have been carrying on on GQII on " Plan B Letter Building" thread .
My wife desperate to have extended contact(I understand her need)has cried the blues to her lawyer .We'll see what happens .i want my children to have a relationship with their mother but not when she wants to but when they want to .