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She always work with olivia in her homework, feed her and read at story! Olivia usually goes to bed around 9:30! No I didnt speak with the delivery boy yet! On my way to the flower shop! I will have my computer with me, so I can see your post and reply to you! My mind is drive me crazy! Please dont leave me alone today! Thank you!

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Done, I sent her the text

My Text is": Elizabeth, what I have to say to you needs to be in person! When do you have time?




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On my way to the flower shop! I will have my laptop with me! any advice?


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Again, see if you can talk to the delivery guy, so you can give him special instructions. Then you can bring up spiffing him 20.00 to tell you how they're received. Remember, tell him to listen up and watch her face. Does she roll her eyes. Did she smile?

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I am ouside the flower shop! In my car in the computer. I talked to the delivery guy! he has my instructions! also gave him Elizabeths numbers! I hope she can come down to the lobby and receive the flowers. He is going to deliver at 1:30 PM CST I told him that I will call him at 2:00PM CST.

I sent Elizabeth the text that says: what I have to say has to be in person, is over an hour now and she still dont respond!

what do you think she is doing? when I get back to my office I will be online, unless she send me a response I will stop driving and logi in and tell you what she says!

Thank you Thank you!

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Elizabeth sent me a txt about 10 minutes ago! before she is getting the flowers!

her text says: Are you kidding me? You're impossible. Lunch tomorrow in frisco? or after I get out from school 9:30PM

End of her text....

How does she means by her text? saying are you kidding me? and You are impossible!

Now she is getting the flowers any moment!

What should I do? I dont want a text her back right now because she is getting the flowers! I prefer at 9:30 PM after her school!

Probably she will send me a txt back after the flowers! Should I wait to call me to tell me thanks or anything? what should I do now?

How does her mind will work after she receives the flowers?

Waiting soon for the flower guy to call me and tell me what happened!

Thanks!


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It sounds like she isn't mad, more like a mom would say to a kid who asks for something that isn't entirely convenient. One thing, it doesn't sound cold.Its OK. Definitely after school at 9:30. Text her after she gets the flowers. And let her know about the time. She may open up a bit with her next text.

On a side note. Anger/Hate is not the opposite of love, apathy is. At least she doesn't sound apathetic. If you want to post what you are going to write and want an opinion, message me.

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The flower delivery guy just call me and he told me:

When she saw the flowers the words that she said were:

Ohh my god! with a big smile! and she said thank you!

Where I do from here? shoul I text er back now or later?

How do I said Tomorrow night after 9:30Pm which kind of words can I use?

Thank you!

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The text that Im planning to send is:

I am looking foward to meeting with you tomorrow after 9:

What do you think?

or what should I say?


Thanks!

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Awesome, wait an hour, and then text her. Let it soak in. Then text her about meeting at 9:30. Don't mention the flowers. Let her. If she brings up the flowers. Ask her if she liked them. If she says yes. Tell her "You have the same effect on me when I see you" close off with I'm looking forward to seeing you. And leave it at that. Not to wordy, OK.

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Cool!

I keep you posted! I need your advice right now more than anything!

My name is Gustav Thanks!

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Mines John, nice to meet you.

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Nice to meet you John! smile

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John,

She sent me a txt 10 minutes ago! her text says:

OK I will come to your hotel!


She didn't Mention nothing about the Flowers!


I txt her back and say: Ok! Im staying at Home stay Suites in Dallas, addrees and give her my room number and telephone number of hotel. and says Im looking forward in seeing you!


WHY?

Why does she want to meet me at the hotel?

Im asking myself these questions!

Does she want to see where I stay and no stay anywhere else? Other woman?

Does she dont want me to meet her at home because she have my stuff in a box?

Does she is bring in my things in the box?


WHY she is reacting this way? I dont understand!

Please write me soon!!!!!!!!!!!!1


Thanks

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John,

She sent me a txt 10 minutes ago! her text says:

OK I will come to your hotel!


She didn't Mention nothing about the Flowers!


I txt her back and say: Ok! Im staying at Home stay Suites in Dallas, addrees and give her my room number and telephone number of hotel. and says Im looking forward in seeing you!


WHY?

Why does she want to meet me at the hotel?

Im asking myself these questions!

Does she want to see where I stay and no stay anywhere else? Other woman?

Does she dont want me to meet her at home because she have my stuff in a box?

Does she is bring in my things in the box?


WHY she is reacting this way? I dont understand!

Please write me soon!!!!!!!!!!!!1


Thanks

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I don't know? If she thinks its going to be an adult conversation and she wants to speak with you in private without Olivia present. That may be why she wants to do it there.

At this point, I really have no idea. did you write your letter you want to read to her. If you would like me to read it over (if its not to private) I would be happy to look at. Just message privately.

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Well,

Olivia always spend Tuesdays nights, and thursdays nights when libby goes to school! so tomorrow is tuesday! so Olivia is going to be at grandmas tomorrow night!

any other ideas?

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Damn, doesn't anybody talk on the phone to each other anymore? OK call her this time and tell her you know how rushed she is on school nights. Ask her if you can wait dinner for her. And what she might like eat. Ask how she has been? Do not get emotional or needy with her on the phone.

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Ok she just email me few times:

Libby: Thank you so much, they are so beautiful!
(she include a picture of the flowers for me to see them)

Gustav: Do you like them

Libby: Of course I do. They are absolutely gorgeous! Thank you
Gustav, you didn't have to do that

Gustav: "You have the same effect on me when I see you"

Libby: You don't have anything to tell me, do you?

Gustav: What do you mean? for tomorrow night?

Libby: Yes

Gustav: Oh Yes I Do!

Libby: Ok it better be good because you have 77 days left smile


That the end of the conversation, she said 77 days, because I remember that, when she got mad, she said that she will need 90 days to to think and to decide about giving me another opportunity!


What do you think?

Im so Nervous?

I have her ring! but I dont want to give it to her in a hotel room!

She said you have 77 days left smile that drives me crazy!


What I should do tonight and what will be my plan for tomorrow?

Thanks,

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FYI Libby is her nickname!

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