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Re: I want her to trust me again!
Want2rebuild #2204995 02/03/09 01:51 AM
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Originally Posted by Want2rebuild
Ok she just email me few times:

Libby: Thank you so much, they are so beautiful!
(she include a picture of the flowers for me to see them)

Gustav: Do you like them

Libby: Of course I do. They are absolutely gorgeous! Thank you
Gustav, you didn't have to do that

Gustav: "You have the same effect on me when I see you"

Libby: You don't have anything to tell me, do you?

Gustav: What do you mean? for tomorrow night?

Libby: Yes

Gustav: Oh Yes I Do!

Libby: Ok it better be good because you have 77 days left smile


That the end of the conversation, she said 77 days, because I remember that, when she got mad, she said that she will need 90 days to to think and to decide about giving me another opportunity!


What do you think?

Im so Nervous?

I have her ring! but I dont want to give it to her in a hotel room!

She said you have 77 days left smile that drives me crazy!


What I should do tonight and what will be my plan for tomorrow?

Thanks,

Gustav


Be happy, she loves you.
Re: I want her to trust me again!
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I think the letter will be a great start. I hope it flows.

OK. Here is whats next. Tomorrow night. You focus on one question. Will you forgive me?

If she says yes. Wonderful. If she looks like she is disappointed.
Like she was expecting you to pop the question. Tell her this. Tonight I am focusing on one question only. My forgiveness. And though I can't wait to ask you another question. I don't think a hotel room is the place I would want you to honor me with an answer to it. When I ask you that question, I want the wrong I did to you behind us.

You can say this to her, if you really don't want to ask her there.
Again. In your mia culpa. DO NOT TRY TO SHIFT THE BLAME. ITS YOUR FAULT, NO ONE ELSE'S. DO NOT OFFER ANY EXCUSES OTHER THEN YOU WERE WEAK.

You could say: "THOUGH I COULD NEVER SEE MYSELF WITH ANYONE BUT YOU. IT WAS ALLOWED BECAUSE IT BOOSTED MY EGO. I FEEL HORRIBLE ABOUT STRINGING THEM ALONG. IT WAS NOT FAIR TO YOU OR THEM."

Let me know how things turn out. I am very excited at the prospect of your reconciliation.
Re: I want her to trust me again!
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OK. Here is whats next. Tomorrow night. You focus on one question.
Will you forgive me?

How can I earn your forgiveness?

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Re: I want her to trust me again!
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John,

I want to send you a private message! this is very important to me! How can I do that?

Gustav
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John,

I sent you a private message!

Gustav
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For some reason I am not getting it. I have e-mailed the moderator to inform me. I will check throughout the day.
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Re: I want her to trust me again!
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John,

my email is Want2rebuild@gmail.com

Gustav
Re: I want her to trust me again!
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I e-mailed you.
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John,

I emailed you back!

Thanks!
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Well, How are things going?

I think I am.....about to be a Single Mother
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