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You know.. I was starting to question whether or not I was imagining some of this stuff in exWW. Between POM, and you SD.. it sounds like we all divorced the same friggin woman.. So very sad that they had to leave us to find happiness.. and this... is the happiness they've found. Just another heaping helping of how pointless and abusive all of this really is. Sad strange smallish women.. OH well.. Who's got two thumbs and is hosting a rousing party this weekend that I would have never been allowed to have under the oppressive regime of the WW? THIS GUY!  Hope you're doing something to keep your spirits up SD, and not letting this crap get to you too much. Easiest just to have a plan, stick to it, and let her do what she's going to do.. you dictate your actions, not her.
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They may have gotten everthing they wanted through their adultery and divorce but they are not happy. I wonder if they are surprised. Yeah, my problem is that I still want her to see this. The sooner she figures this out, the better it is for the kids.
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The sooner she figures this out, the better it is for the kids. Or more likely it's worse SD... more likely, she'll sooner or later figure this out.. but it will be in general terms of -her- unhappiness, inconvenience, and discomfort. I'd wager good money that her survival instinct will kick in and supress any thoughts of what this has really done to the young lives she should have taken responsibility for. I don't honestly know how anyone could do this to their children, and maintain a desire to continue breathing.
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Hope you're doing something to keep your spirits up SD, and not letting this crap get to you too much. Easiest just to have a plan, stick to it, and let her do what she's going to do.. you dictate your actions, not her. Yeah, it's all a bit tough at the moment, for reasons I've already said enough about. At least I *know* that and can feel it in myself, and am doing what I can. Appointments with both my mental health professionals tonight. And I think I'm going to blow out of work for the rest of the day, too.
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They may have gotten everthing they wanted through their adultery and divorce but they are not happy. I wonder if they are surprised. Yeah, my problem is that I still want her to see this. The sooner she figures this out, the better it is for the kids. :RollieEyes: WHY do you think she is so unhappy? She knows - and she knows that YOU know. Fox
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SDG: So, look, it wasn't my intention that you get left off the roster, and, for what it's worth, I'm sorry that it came out that way.
I hope you're not preventing DS9 from getting counseling just to hurt me. Please make sure that's not what you're doing. DS9 asked for help. I think we should get it for him.
Yesterday, my IC brought up how I would feel if the situation were reversed on the whole roster thing, and I would have been triggered, too. She seriously overreacted, of course.
I'm trying to get back on the high road. I feel better about myself, and it's likely to make her even angrier that I won't fight with her.
Tomorrow the Red Rubies have our first game. We've had two practices--enough to work on throwing the ball (but not catching it), hitting it off a tee, running the bases, and picking up a rolling ground ball. We haven't had a chance to put it all together, though, so I'm expecting it to be a very entertaining game.
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enough to work on throwing the ball (but not catching it) Sounds like my guards and posts. Some of my bigs catch a ball like they are wearing baseball mitts on both hands backwards. She seriously overreacted, of course. I hope you're not preventing DS9 from getting counseling just to hurt me. Please make sure that's not what you're doing. With future HOW DARE YOUs!!! yet to come.
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Good luck to the Red Rubies!!!!  I hope you have someone there with a video camera, those will be very precious moments!Have a great weekend! I will be at Chris's game tonight, I hope they knock em dead! Literally!!! 
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DGS!! Well look what rolled down the mountain!
I just realized you had your own profile.
SD,
I coached T-ball last year and will be again this year. That's some funny and amazing stuff
and yeah, uniforms and snacks are waaaay more impt than the game
I remember half the team running off to the other team b/c they whipped out their snacks first.
lotsa "Get Back Over Here!" in T-ball
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Yesterday, my IC brought up how I would feel if the situation were reversed on the whole roster thing, and I would have been triggered, too. She seriously overreacted, of course. Oh, boo frickin' hoo for her. Instead of spouting off at YOU she could have called the person doing the roster and said "I notice that I was inadvertantly left off the rest, would you please add me?" She wanted to vent at you, specifically, and she did. and it's likely to make her even angrier that I won't fight with her. OR, she thinks she is superior and that she wins by default. Either way, if it makes YOU feel better to not engage, then not engaging is a good idea. I engage because it does make me feel better. I hate stuff riding on my chest anymore. When WxH sends a stinger, I tend to sock him (figuratively) right between the eyes back. Gee, I wonder why he doesn't engage anymore? It's all good. Less engagement from him means less is riding on my chest that I feel I need to unload. KWIM? Tomorrow the Red Rubies have our first game. We've had two practices--enough to work on throwing the ball (but not catching it), hitting it off a tee, running the bases, and picking up a rolling ground ball. We haven't had a chance to put it all together, though, so I'm expecting it to be a very entertaining game. Good luck!!! Fox
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SCQ: Forget the rooster. Whats done is done.
I wanted to know what concerns you had independent from anything else.
Not sure how to respond to this.
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Rooster? Is she into [censored] fights now? I wanted to know what concerns you had independent from anything else. Hmmmmmm...sincerity or setup?.......Hmmmmmmm
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I didn't even notice the rooster thing. And [censored] fights being censored. That's hilarious.
But, yeah, how to interpret the other part. And how to respond. If at all.
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I don't get the, "independent from anything else" part.
You never told her anything about DS9's recent concerns.
I can't say [censored] fight? How very limiting in my daily speech and written communications. I talk about [censored] fights several times a day.
Can I say cockpit???
Nope. We can't talk about a pilots seat on a plane either.
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Yeah, it sounds like she's asking me what I think. I can't say [censored] fight? How very limiting in my daily speech and written communications. I wonder if you can say cockfight. I like it how you can say JACK and [censored] but not [censored].
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Shuttlecock??
Good! We can have badminton discussions!
Cockshuttle?
Crap! That limits our talks about antique tractors!
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Rooster!!! hahahaa But, yeah, how to interpret the other part. And how to respond. If at all. Hmmmm.... I'd almost consider responding in kind. She asked pleasantly enough. Maybe just truly lay out what you think and what you would like to see for him in a non-confrontational way. IDK. Yeah, I didn't get the "independent of everything else" statement, either. Fox
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She asked pleasantly enough.  HOW DARE YOU CALL MY ROOSTER A [censored]!!!!
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She asked pleasantly enough. In comparison to the last cokamamie blowup. Fox
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You know if we were all together and wanted to go to the lounge for a cocktail and continuance of this discussion we could not?
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