I mean this in the best way noway .... to both you and your wife ..... I am NOT having a go ,, I want you to think about this and talk it over with YOUR wife .... YOU DON'T EVEN HAVE TO RESPOND .. of course you never have had too
BUT PLEASE DISCUSS AND THINK ON THIS OBSERVATION
I'd like she and I to go to a MB weekend and will look for an opportunity to attend one, the one in Minn in March won't work out unfortunately
So does this mean your
jobs
hobbies
interests
cd player
dvd
tv
etc
come BEFORE your marriage? Don't know I am asking not being sarky.
I mean you both seem to be recognising HUGE red flags
for your M here ... right now ... TODAY .... you have an OM ... even if an X OM on the horizon .......... and something MORE important comes up???????????
Could it be THIS is why your M is NOT both at the top of your lists of important things??????????
Are BOTH your priorities set right??????????
Now if its $... you can't afford it yet ok I think we have all been there..... your parents or kids or family etc were in hospital at this time or something like that then yeah ok I can understand that reasoning .. but otherwise .... No way .. how serious are you both then?????
No way it just seems with the info you have supplied in your posts that to me your M is NOT the main consideration in your decision making ..... and have you even discussed this with your wife ..... how does she feel with the next MB weekend date not working ???? .. if so why not????????
it appears to be you've joined the band on the titanic and are playing while it sinks ... and the empty life boat is just a bit over there and your wife is looking around to find you right next to the release cord of the boat.... and she doesn't know it.
but play on ... its your choice after all.
meant with care and no discourtesy
AW