Queenie,

You asked if you should reply.

I would.


I think this letter to your daughter was your husband's timid attempt to test the waters of the family's feelings toward him. I don't know if your daughter is up for talking to him or not, but this is definitely a man remorseful for his actions. Not a hint of anything but that in his letter.

He sees the whole thing right in front of him, and my guess is that he has no idea that you might even consider a reconcilation at this point.

Maybe a short letter to reopen the possibility in his mind.

Dear H,

DD shared your letter of apology with me. I hope you don't mind that I read it. That apology means a lot to me, and I hope she will be able to talk with you. I can see you have come a long way since you left here. I have made changes, too, and know that I have become a better person for making them.

The letter was beautifully written, and showed me that the man I loved, and still love, remains within you. Almost a year ago I wrote you a letter describing the pathway home. That letter was about believing in our love, that we can recover our marriage, and that I can forgive you.

I still believe.

Love,
Queenie

Thank Schoolbus,

I will send it right away. Thank you so much.

Interesting few minutes for sure.

Evidently OW is still in the picture.... OH well...... I sent the email before knowing that.

Here is his response....

The letter was for DD. Right now I am very very angry. At the " team " that I used to play on. Now I understand why I dont play with them anymore. I hope OS enjoys himself. He looked good out there. As for the rest we would have to see. Yes alot has changed on both sides. Not enough but that is OK.

Thoughts?

Honestly, my sense is that he is ISN'T broken but maybe hurting that one night. And if indeed she is in the picture. Then he really isn't willing to make the changes in himself. He still thinks that he is OWED...

And I KNOW as long as OW is in the picture... NOTHING CHANGES and certainly NOT his wayward MIND SET of entitlement which is showing through clear as day.

Thank you so much, SchoolBus.

You are right on with your response. You are truly gifted and I so appreciate the read. Hope you don't mind if I ask again.

Thanks!!