Thanks, Baron. It is hard to be strong in this situation. My wife is not very technical, I checked her room, car, and other places for a secret phone. It is not outside the realm of possibilities, though.
She does not use our computer much, but I will install a keylogger, just in case.
I also have a USB recorder for the regular phone line, which does not accept blocked calls. So if she uses our regular line to call out, when I am not around, I have these calls taped.

I am waiting for a time with the MB counselors. I love my wife, but these boundry issues must be resolved, There is no way I am going to stay around if she does not do the work to fix herself and understand that a lunch with anothe guyr behind my back is never ok.

I am also preparing for the possibility of this thing being further along when I caught it earlier this year. If it got physical, I am not sure what I will do. I am currently doing ok with plan A, but I can see that we still have a long way to go. I love my daughter very much, but I will not spend the next 30-40 years wondering if I can truly trust my spouse.

Thanks for the support. I know that these are tough times for all of us in one way or another. I take my marriage vows seriously and I will fight as hard as I can to save this marriage if she is able to change.

I just got the GPS system up and running. I now feel that I can have a good idea if my WW is really being truthful with me.

So far, there are no calls on her cell or anything else. I am also in the process of setting up an appointment with Steve Harley on 3/23. I am going to call in for the first one alone. I want to bring Steve up to speed with this situation and not allow my WW to control the session.

I have been reading up on the site material, such as love busters and his needs/her needs. I definitely could have been a better husband before this situation. I was guilty of some angry outbursts and other things.

However, I do not apoligize for being angry about this inappropriate contact and calls from my WW to the OM. I did have several angry outburts about this since I discovered it on 1/1. I now have his name, address, and other information. I am waiting for a work address and he may even have a spouse. He is going to get the hammer dropped on him with a huge wham!. I am up for a face to face talk, preferably in front of his wife or significant other.

My wife and I have been getting along ok lately. There is still a large gulf between us. I have been practicing plan A like crazy. I have been more helpful around the house and I have been more conversational. I was always involved in this things, but my efforts are greater now.

I believe my wife, like many other WW, enjoys the attention and admiration of her good looks from other men. All of us enjoy compliments and attention. This guy claimed he had a work referral for her in order to get her number. She stupidly gave out her business card and the rest is history. She clearly screwed up her boundries with this situation with the OM. I hope I caught it before it became physical, but I still do not believe all of the details have come out yet. I am prepared to meet them like a man. I still want my marriage back, but I also know that she must learn the marriage builders concepts for us to have a chance at true reconciliaton.

I am looking forward to the session with Steve and I am holding my head up high right now, even if it hurts to do so. I appreciate any feedback on my plan or any other suggestions.