|
|
Joined: Jun 2008
Posts: 6,108
Member
|
Member
Joined: Jun 2008
Posts: 6,108 |
So I am disgusted with him, I think I need to take him to the gym and beat him up for a while before I can talk to him again. What do you guys think I should do? Yes you should beat him up for awhile. If he doesn't confess to his BW and you don't expose him then punch yourself too.
BW - me
exWH - serial cheater
2 awesome kids
Divorced 12/2011
Many a good man has failed because he had a wishbone where his backbone should have been.
We gain strength, and courage, and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face... we must do that which we think we cannot.
--------Eleanor Roosevelt
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Jun 2008
Posts: 858
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Jun 2008
Posts: 858 |
Some more things to think about. If the W is essentially giving the H a pass on this, does it not leave the door open to lie again? I mean, if the lie is to avoid conflict for the sake of the marriage, it leaves the door open for a whole wealth of dishonesty.
On the other side, it seems that a W who does not want to know the truth is going to be just as willing to keep the truth from her H. Does your brother want to essentially tell her that's ok?
Me 38
Divorced 8/09
DS 10,6
DD 4
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Aug 2008
Posts: 896
Member
|
|
OP
Member
Joined: Aug 2008
Posts: 896 |
Alot of stuff to chew on here. I do like my SIL and have known her for many years. I'm going to talk to little brother and ask if he wants to do it together. He says I am the only one who knows but he is feeling very guilty and it shows. I'm having trouble trusting his word right now, so I don't know what to do if he tells me he has confessed and they are working on it.
Me 42 BS
Wife 41 FWW (exwife now)
Divorced 10/14/2008
S 21
D 18
D 16
S, S 13 (twins)
Grandson 8 months
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Nov 2005
Posts: 3,834
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Nov 2005
Posts: 3,834 |
6YL:
Lots of interesting discussion on this thread.
What did you do?
LG
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Oct 2005
Posts: 7,464
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Oct 2005
Posts: 7,464 |
So I am disgusted with him, I think I need to take him to the gym and beat him up for a while before I can talk to him again. What do you guys think I should do? OMG is this 6years advocating violence or is it a joke (and can he tell the difference)?
Me: 56 (FBS) Wife: 55 (FWW)
D-Day August 2005
Married 11/1982 3 Sons 27,25,23
Empty Nesters.
Fully Recovered.
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Aug 2008
Posts: 896
Member
|
|
OP
Member
Joined: Aug 2008
Posts: 896 |
I'm asking permission to beat him up in a controlled environment, and he refused the invitation. So he is still bruise free and won't get any from me. BTW, I'm not against violence when it is justified and legal. I'm only against it when it makes the situation worse or gets an already hurting BH in more trouble.
If the woman's boyfriend or whatever (He doesn't know her last name, yeuch) came over with a bat and went after my little brother, then I would defend my brother from physical harm as always.
He is trying to decide if we will tell together or he will do it alone. I am suspicious that he will just tell me that he told. Do you think I should go back and confirm with his W?
Last edited by 6yearsleft; 03/02/09 08:03 PM.
Me 42 BS
Wife 41 FWW (exwife now)
Divorced 10/14/2008
S 21
D 18
D 16
S, S 13 (twins)
Grandson 8 months
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Apr 2001
Posts: 92,985 Likes: 1
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Apr 2001
Posts: 92,985 Likes: 1 |
So I am disgusted with him, I think I need to take him to the gym and beat him up for a while before I can talk to him again. What do you guys think I should do? Oh dear. Apparently we know where Mike got the idea to beat up the OM! Was that very "wise" to advocate violence on this board? 
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Oct 2005
Posts: 7,464
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Oct 2005
Posts: 7,464 |
Me: 56 (FBS) Wife: 55 (FWW)
D-Day August 2005
Married 11/1982 3 Sons 27,25,23
Empty Nesters.
Fully Recovered.
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Aug 2008
Posts: 896
Member
|
|
OP
Member
Joined: Aug 2008
Posts: 896 |
I will verify. In fact I will let him know ahead of time that I am going to trust but verify.
Me 42 BS
Wife 41 FWW (exwife now)
Divorced 10/14/2008
S 21
D 18
D 16
S, S 13 (twins)
Grandson 8 months
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Aug 2008
Posts: 896
Member
|
|
OP
Member
Joined: Aug 2008
Posts: 896 |
I'm human, I have violence in me. My little brother cheated on his W and I am a divorced BH, so I am angry at him. Yet, I proposed a legal outlet for the violence, which he refused since I am bigger than he is.
I would definitely have preferred if he had initially broached the subject over the phone, instead of partially drunk at a bar. But I love him so he was pretty safe.
Last edited by 6yearsleft; 03/02/09 08:11 PM.
Me 42 BS
Wife 41 FWW (exwife now)
Divorced 10/14/2008
S 21
D 18
D 16
S, S 13 (twins)
Grandson 8 months
|
|
|
|
0 members (),
252
guests, and
61
robots. |
|
Key:
Admin,
Global Mod,
Mod
|
|
|
Forums67
Topics133,621
Posts2,323,489
Members71,946
| |
Most Online3,185
Jan 27th, 2020
|
|
|
|
