I, like EVERYONE else on this site, can tell you for a fact that as long as your WH is still working with the OW, the A is still active.

I also can tell you for a fact that until his is TOTALLY transparent, totally meaning you have access to ALL accounts, cell phones, etc, your marriage doesn't have a snow balls chance in HE!! of recovering. There's no way other than being totally transparent and being TOTALLY OPEN AND HONEST.

You need to take steps NOW, his A has gone on for way to long, and right under your nose with him lying to you every minute of every day.

See a Divorce Lawyer and start PLAN B. DO IT TODAY.....Don't wait. YOu have to show him what he's losing. Listen to tst.... he's done the exact same things as your WH....

To A719's Wayward Husband:

IF YOUR MAN ENOUGH TO COME BACK.

I pulled my "It's Curtains for LG" Thread up for you to read.

Read what SHOULD happen on DDay. That's Discovery Day to you fogged out wayward types.

I was there. Your a piker compared to what I was doing.

Your not even in single A ball.

"Somethings just have to be "mine" How pathetic.

YOUR going to lose it ALL, If you don't come clean with A719.

Listen to tst, or me. We were where you are. Can you come back?

Sure.

And EVERYTHING you need to do that with is HERE.

LG

a719...

Though it pains me to say this to you, as a FWS myself, I can tell you that your husband is still very much involved in his affair...It's very obvious by his actions, the things that he is saying to you and things he is saying about MB...Straight out of the WS Handbook...

Is there anyway that you could please email me at the address in my signature? My husband and I share the account - he posts here too...I have something I'd like to share with you off site if possible...I know you don't know me from Adam, but I have been here for a while and I'm sure others around here could vouch for the safety of your contacting me...

Mrs. W

Here's LG thread....

Here's LG's tread......It's Curtains for LG

a179

What you did when you were 17 may not be pretty but it in no way excuses your WH choice to have an A. If anything, it is pretty pathetic that he feels the need to tear you down so he doesn't look so bad and compare what you did as a teenager is the same as what a 30+ yr old adult is doing. The stress of a new baby, the doctor friend...all excuses to justify his behavior.

Well, your marriage (not unlike alot of marriages) was in trouble before he had the A. You BOTH own that 50/50. You were both NOT meeting each others EN's. Do you hear that WH? I'm saying that she owns 50% of the reasons that your marriage was in trouble before your affair!! However, you OWN your affair 100%!!! Time to man-up and work on recovering the marriage. If you can't do that then you will lose your family. Plain and simple. You decide.

If your WH would take the time to read some of the material here and educate himself rather then just writing it off as being a cult then you might....just might be able to get a plan together to save your marriage. Many others here have been able to do so using MB principles. Cleary you are not equipped to do it without a plan because you've tried that and have gotten nothing but heartache and misery.

As for the stuff you did when your were 17?!? C'mon...sure it sounds like you were stupid but you were also very young and NOT married at the time. He is using that to deflect from what he has done and to justify it.

THERE IS NO JUSTIFICATION FOR AN AFFAIR!!! PERIOD!!!!

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