1. Who does the bills and does most of the major purchasing? (groceries, things for the house, etc)
I do. When we first married almost 25 years ago, he had bad credit and simply wasn't good at managing.
2. Do you both deposit your earnings into a joint account? Does he have his own but you share yours or vice versa?
Everything was joint until we couldn't agree. We then set up our own little kiddies. His is completely empty. Even the one we had set up jointly to go toward another truck someday (since his has 240000 miles and we have a fifth wheel to tow)
3. Have you set boundaries, spending allowances, etc for each couple?
Basically small purchases with our kiddies, but, it was suppose to be major purchases was a joint decision. He sees nothing wrong with what he has done.
4. Is he able to pay for the motorcycle (and other purchases) with his own earnings?
Yes. But it causes me to have to use my kiddies to cover unexpected bills and I get left out of the toys.
5. What goals is his purchasing habits affecting (retirement, vacations, etc) and are those JOINT goals or just yours?
Bottom line, it is affecting my impending retirement a great deal. I would be better off financially alone.
6. Is this perceived financial betrayal the only problem area in the marriage?
No. But, it is major to me. I HATE motorcycles, and this is the 3rd time he has bought one I have asked him not to. He also allowed the wife of another friend to get in the middle of our marriage in support of him with me being the bad guy.
