im seeing someone next week about everything i have been in touch with the families services for the forces today and theyre sending someone round to go through everything with me so ill know where to go from there.
I have to start looking for somewhere to live too as this is forces housing and not entitled to stay they can help me with that too.

Oh, you have to move out of your housing?

So you exposed to his command? Is she in the forces too? Be sure to get a family law attorney to file for support for your COM before OW files. You would be shocked how much of a difference then second to file gets.

yes she is in forces too they were both on same ship now they are seperated and have got into trouble over it.

and yes i cant stay here think we get 3 months before eviction notice know for certain when ive spoken to support people. not sure if ill get help with removals and deposits etc i need to find all this out as i havent got the money to do it.

Right now we have agreed he will pay me £400 pm
but its not legal as yet i need to get it sorted out legally

well its been just over a week since i been here and have come away to visit the inlaws kids are having a great time and its helped to take my mind of things a bit.

Im now a lot calmer altho finding things very hard to deal with just taking 1 day at a time right now. The last conversation i had with WS was us talking about if the baby is actually his, he believes it is but also now wants proof that it is his after us spending ages talking.

WS is currently back at sea and will be home in another week im just not sure where to go from here, He says he needs to move things along faster now with OW now that she is Preg as they need to plan a lot before baby comes this is deeply hurting its like his just walked out on me and the children and starting a completely new life like we didnt matter at all to him.

He still rings me as much as possible with being away at sea and tells me he is missing me loads and that he does still love me.
Just not sure what to do from here on in.

Glad you are getting time to relax. Continue trying to have friendly talks with your husband.

Hopefully he will insist on a paternity test, as the baby might not be his.

He rang tonight from sea we had a nice convo for about 20 mins and he told me his missing me and loves me before he said goodbye and he will ring tomorrow night to check were ok.

he gets back from sea friday and is coming round for dinner with us then he going to football for the day saturday its quite far from us but then his coming round for the day sunday to spend with me and the kids he said so quite looking forward to it

Sister gave me a lecture about it all saying i shouldnt be having him in the house she didnt get where i coming from and it made me feel pretty low about doing all this.

She worried im gonna get more hurt which then makes me question am i doing the right thing even tho i keep telling myself i am

Sweetie - Our relatives NEVER want us to put up with the wayward. That is very normal. Don't feel bad.

If I had listened to my sister two years ago I would be a divorced single mom. I'm glad I didn't take her advice because I'm enjoying the best of my WH (2nd year in R).

GG

Spoke to npfs yesterday they are forces families peeps they came out to inform me of everything and my rights, the good news is all the time WS hasnt told them were seperated i can stay here and he has to carry on paying the rent and once he does tell them i have 3 months to stay here with him paying rent then i have to move but all the time i have no where else to go i can stay here paying the rent by myself which is a bit of good news

WS rang again last night and was very chatty said his looking forward to seeing us on friday and missing me loads.

Ive got a nice dinner planned for friday so looking forward it

Whew, that's a relief! I was worried about you having to move out.

Now you can continue on your Plan A for a bit without being pressured. That is very good news.

thanks believer its lifted a huge weight of my shoulders and he has told me his not in any hurry to tell them were seperated so i do have time on my side.

Now im feeling loads better about everything im back to concentrating on my plan A and ive started looking into gyms to join and other things in my local area to join to start rebuilding myself a life too feeling good about things today

Good, concentrate on making a good life for yourself, and Plan A. Hopefully hubby will want to join you.

had some bad news yesterday so feeling really low today ive lost my job my last shift is next tuesday
and then WS rang last night they may not be back tomorrow now they might be getting sent somewhere else first i should know tonight when he rings hopefully was so looking forward to seeing him,
feels my weeks just getting worse this week not better. so im sat here feeling sorry for myself
need to start looking for another job but right now dont have much motivation to do that but on the plus side ill get to have more time with my children and not having to work most evenings when they get in from school as i work from home at present

Well, you are on the rollercoaster for sure. First the good news - you don't have to move, and then the bad news, no job.

Yes, you need to jump right into looking for another job. Don't feel like the only one. Millions of people are going through the same thing right now.

However, I WOULD take some time now and enjoy being a stay at home mom. Good for you and good for your kids.

finished my last shift at work was a huge relief actually

WS turned up out the blue yesterday the ship came in yesterday morning and he came straight round to surprise us didnt know the ship was coming in so was lovely to see him

was an odd day first he was moody then he was happy we sat talking for quite a while and one thing led to another it felt nice and for a while was like my husband was back til it came to him having to go but i stayed strong and said goodbye invited him for dinner tonight which he accepted so im gonna make a nice home cooked meal for him

mothers day here on sunday i said im going to take the kids to the zoo for the day and his welcome to join us if he would like to which he has accepted too

all in all a good start to the week and feeling positive

he came round for dinner and spent time with the kids and me had a nice night spent time talking once kids had gone to bed very hard not to say the wrong things cos sometimes i put my foot in it but managed it today no arguing or questioning about anything just general talk about our day what were doing tomorrow and stuff was nice to actually chat not done that in a long time

i invited him for dinner tomorrow and he accepted might even bake a nice cake tomorrow too

he said he might stay over end of the week not getting my hopes up yet just wait and see what happens

Sounds like you are doing very well. Just remember, you want to show him that coming home is the best alternative.

its what im trying my best to do not sure if i always do the right things but ive kept the house very clean and tidy cooking freshly made meals every day taking good care of myself and the kids ive been going out a lot more even just for nice walks and meeting up with my sister and stuff, cant join the gym yet now ive lost my job so have put that on hold.

We have had an eventful weekend been up and down OW is getting very demanding with WS and will not allow him to come up here as much told him if he dont she will end things with him so he is trying to limit his time up here now his cutting back on the time he is seeing the children by loads he is trying to do anything he can to keep OW happy. We were meant to be going to the bike racing next month to watch the superbikes now he is not sure we can go as she does not want him spending any time with me he wants to go but dont want to upset her so not sure if we will be going now

Ive got an appointment with my solicitor tomorrow to find out
where i stand with everything legally not looking forward to it too much but know this has to be done