Thanks Mark and others.
My disclaimer here is that No One should take my advise over Dr Harly's. PERIOD! He is the professional, and I am not!!!!

This thing about Plans A/B is simply a musing of my own that I have thought about for a couple of years. I never had the opportunity to either, as my W's A was over and NC had been established for about 9 months before I discovered the A. Discovery was most difficult and not the admission of my W. It was my DR. who uncovered her A with his DX of what I had.

I personally feel that Plan B with full exposure accomplishes two things that can immediately kill the A.
1) The secret second life necessary to have an A has been blown out of the water. and,,,,,,,,,
2) The fantasy aspect that fueled the A will now crumble even more quickly, cause real life has injected itself. and,,,,,,,
3) The BS gets to hang onto some semblence of dignity!!!!!

Again, this is simply MHO and carries no real weight or authority with it. Just the mussings of an old man.

All Blessings,
Jerry