You are all 4 the most part right. Wedding was off b4 I came here. I will not try to marry him in the midst of this. I know I still sound a little stuck on stupid.
You are refusing to see him as he is.But I can't imagine that every marriage started off perfect and that every marriage that didn't start off perfect didn't turn out good.
Most do start off perfect. The real work generally starts after the marriage not before. You are really trying to make a silk purse out of a sows ear.I understand and have debated the risk.
Not to be disrespectful, but the M certificate is a very small point when you look at what we really have going on. But many are not willing to consider that in this situation.
The Marriage certificate does matter. It is legal and recognized by government, family and friends. Laws change with this "little piece of paper". It matters. Don't fool yourself.He has no right to do this to me no matter what!
You give him the right when you allow it and don't leave.I would think, based on what I've learned here, that I was not meeting some of his most important EN and I love to LB, so he has the EA, the fact that he is a former cheater makes everything about this worst, but the truth of the matter is what he has done in this case is not really a big deal in comparison.
He has convinced you that this is your fault. It IS if you let it continue!Run... My mother told me the same thing in so many words
Please listen to your mother if you won't listen to us!But this man is the only father my S knows.
Because you won't leave. This POS bf is teaching your son how to be a man. Do we really need another selfish, cheating man in the world?This hurt is nothing compared to what I've already been through and if he made
a mistake like anyone could do and he is making an effort to correct it....after all the mistakes that I have made. (forgiving him the 1st
several times, and letting him get so close to kids) don't I owe it to myself and my children to see if his intentions are honorable.
You already gave him several chances. Do you want to teach your kids that there selfish actions have no consequences? Do you think they really want this man around their mother? They would rather have you happy and whole all to themselves. I promise you that as they get older they will lose respect for you because this will continue. I will not be stupid. Any decision I make I am going to make with my eyes open. If I know he's a cheating, lying dog and I marry him anyway, that is something that I will have to deal with and ultimately explain to my kids.
A man is a man is a man, H or not, If I were going to condemn him for being a cheater
I should have done that 6 years ago. Yes you should have! I have to focus on the exact facts of the current situation. And as it stands
he has not slept with another women Are you sure about that? and I hope he comes through because I am really going to battle for him. On the positive note, I have not cried since 5 pm yesterday. I've only called him once today as compared to atleast 10 times yesterday and I feel good....for now:(
You guys r right though - I give you that!