Dawn,

Yes I'm here. The last few days I haven't been feeling well.

I'm not so sure it was an accident. I'm sure I will never know, but like I said before, her ExH told me she couldn't have kids unless it was via in vitro. They went to a specialist when he was M'd to her. Who knows?

I think ExH could have agreed to have a kid even though he didn't want one...

1. She could have given him an ultimatum. Get me pregnant or I leave.

2. He wants everyone to see that it really wasn't an A that brought them together, it was true love and now they are having a baby to prove it.
3. He just wants to do whatever it is to please OW and make sure this M lasts so he doesn' have to hear the "I told you so's"

He'll never tell me which one it was, and you are right. I need to move on. He obviously has. And all the wishing in the world that he wasn't having another baby isn't going to change the fact that he is. But it's hard.

A friend told me OW is having a baby shower in a few weeks. That ExH is very involved in the pregnancy.

Sorry, but I can't wish them well.

Cat
The questioning of whether it was intentional or not is really irrelevant. It is what it is. You have to get to a point of indifference on this.
You do not have to wish them well but you also do not have to torture yourself over it either.
Of course xH wants to make it "appear" that it was true love and he doesn't want anyone to be able to say "I told you so" but we all know that affairages do not last.
There is someone out there much better for you. Did you watch the movie I recommended to you? It would do you some good I think.
You deserve better and thinking about them all the time is destroying you.

Will you husband be old enough to handle a new baby? Will OW do all the work on the child? Will this separate the couple?

So what if it does break them up, do you want leftovers?

Is finding another loving man an abomination? Your hate for WH shows me that you still like him.

I say, I hope a good guy finds you and knocks your socks off.

I'm not sure how ExH will handle this new baby. He never helped me much with ours, but then again he's acting a totally different way with OW than when he was with me. He pretty much keeps her on a pedestal.

Yes, he will be old when the child is in high school. He and OW are 17 yrs. apart.

I guess I wouldn't want him if the AM were to end. I want more revenge right now. I want him to feel the hurt that he has caused me and my kids and how he and OW disrupted our lives. I guess that's what I wish for.

Just a comment...feelings are just feelings. They aren't meant to govern us, they are just something to contend with. Your feelings about H & OW having a child are understandable. As more time goes on, what they do or don't do will have less significance to you. For right now, you betcha it hurts. Just as I hurt that my exH & OW are having a gay old time together in the life that should have been mine. Eventually my life will move on to the point where they won't matter so much.

Yeah it's the "eventually" part that I wish were now. Like you,I feel that the OW is getting the life that should have been mine. Why am I the one that has to start over? I wasn't the one that cheated!

Everyone says I need to move on. I've been involved with hobbies, exercise etc.

ExH and Ow still haunt me!

The "eventually" begins with today, with what we choose to do with it, keep on with hobbies, exercise, try to create a life for yourself. It takes time, but eventually the old life will diminish and the new one will take precedence in your life. I know, life isn't fair, that's for sure!