Okay I have reread this post several times and I am asking for advice.

Is it "Not everything I say are pearls of wisdom"

or "Not everything I say is a pearl of wisdom".

Opinions please.

[And thanks to the Frenchy for the clear headed thinking.]

Thank GOD Justuss was asleep!

As the mother of his children who will have continued contact with her (or possibly live with her) the point is certainly not moot.

'Not everything (every thing, i.e., singular) IS a pearl...'

'Not all things I say are pearls...'

Good point. But that is for a professional to decide. That should not influence MG's decision for his life's direction.

I fight this battle nightly with homework with the DDs.

Thanks for the support.

I fear for the American (okay - english) language.

My worst nightmare is that someday we will all have to speak FRENCH!!!

Good thing I speak Spanish. They're taking over the USA anyway.

The best advice yet.

God bless you, mgolfer.

Well said.

So where is mr golfer? Haven't heard much from him since his initial posts.

Wow, what a bad surprise.

Your WW seems to be in a huge midlife crisis. She's very into fitness and looks and has chosen similar people (RRBoy, gym dude) for affair partners. Not dealing well with aging, I'd say.

I agree with (Mark?) who said figure out what you want, make a plan, and follow through.

And don't feel stupid. You did everything spectacularly. Your wife is broken.

This is what makes me sympathetic to MG's WW. Something is seriosuly wrong. It isn't MG's fault and it isn't anything he can fix.

But there are kids.

MG seems like a very responsible guy. He MAY feel WW is his responsibility to fix. He is sympathetic to her too and way more than me.

That is a path he cannot follow.

MG I offer nothing more than my sympathy. The way you handled this last time was "what I believed" as close to perfect as one could expect.

Now's the time to protect yourself and children.

-JKT

Never said it should. However it is an illness that does cause people to take extreme risks sexually and that is exactly what she has done.

In my eyes your (MGs) WW is a slinky. I was on another thread and read JustKeepTrying's signature. I thought of your WW instantly. It is beyond words what she has done!

I am sure he has a ton of preparation to do b4 her return. Closing account accesses, credit cards, Packing her things, DNA and Semen testing of the sheets.

After rereading mgolfer's thread from his wifes first infidelity, it is evident to me that she has had several ONS on her scouting journeys. She was out of town 30% of the time. She ended up getting caught because the last one was to close to home. You don't have a job like that and then become so cavalier as to leave so many trails. This showed a person who was use to having sex with OMs just not on ongoing basis. Thats where she slipped up. Her previous interludes were probably common when she was out of town. Then she broke her regular MO and started an affair. The lifestyle has become to ingrained in her to just stop. That is why she had this next affair so quickly after the last one. And the way she didn't even try to cover her tracks, like the bed linen shows one thing. SHE IS USE TO HAVING HOTEL STAFF TAKE CARE OF THE LINENS. She simply never had to do them before. After having sex with various OMs she would simply get up in the morning, get ready for work or to leave, and the maids would take care of the bedding. Now that she doesn't travel she simply never thought to wash the bedding because she never had to before. I think she has been doing this as long as she has had the ability to do it. Sorry mgolfer, but it just make sense.

What????

She pass a lie detector test about previous affairs!!

Something just doesn't add up here. To assume WW is and always has been a serial cheater is tantamount to saying mgolfer is the most gullible buffoon on the planet and I don't believe that. I think mgolfer is too smart to not have picked up on that earlier.

But regardless of whether she is or not, the consequences remain the same. She is too far broken for mgolfer to fix even if he had the desire.

Edit by Dufresne = the French Correction.


Great movie BTW.

Do lie detectors always work?