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Re: A S P E R G E R S ---- ever heard of it?
RobynR #2385886 06/05/10 06:26 PM
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Hi RobynR; I am just tagging along and comparing notes with you...
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The person in question finds it difficult to take turns talking.
Conversation with him starts out normally but before long, is dominated by him to the point where others simply sit silently listening to his diatribe ---mine talks about how I disrespect him by my breathing....TOTAL blame and LBs....
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He is totally rigid in his daily routines, from the time he gets up to how the coffee is made to the order in which things are done.
Mine does NOT adjust to ANY difference in his schedule; take quick offense and blames instantly.
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Empathy is at a minimum.
-doesn't exist at all.
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His hand-printing is unreadable.
mine does not bother; he prints.Mine is a writer and historian as well..


Separated from VAH since Nov.
Married 11 years
1 sd (currently lives w/him; 19)
1 ds (aspergers, with me; 9)
Regaining my life and may be divorced one year from now.
Returned to my church that HE took me out of (ministry) THREE times...never again!!!
Re: A S P E R G E R S ---- ever heard of it?
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I caught up with the thread; thanks Daisy for the website; my husband feels that Aspergers is a main disability for our marriage though I believe that his past abuse (unhealed without counseling) predisposes him to LB (criticism) coming across as verbal and emotional abuse.
There is little to no acknowledgement of who I am or what I feel even when I am CLEAR in trying to communicate with him; he is constantly DISCOUNTING and DEMEANING (this is where I think the separation of behaviors border his survival techniques from past abuse.)
There is an attitude that HE IS RIGHT and he cannot easily even "hear" any opposing attitude without taking it as an attack. His need for RESPECT surpases normal expectation to where he demands total obedience or he does not feel respected (this is abusive!!!)

Separated from VAH since Nov.
Married 11 years
1 sd (currently lives w/him; 19)
1 ds (aspergers, with me; 9)
Regaining my life and may be divorced one year from now.
Returned to my church that HE took me out of (ministry) THREE times...never again!!!
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