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art, Its time to start pulling away. Create the EV (emotional vacuum), which will make her start thinking about losing you. You can't show her what life is like without you (and your provision) if you do not let her experience it. Instead of waiting to may. Start pulling back now. You need to file for divorce, if only to protect yourself financially and keep her from incurring debt in your name. She has truly been insulated from the consequences and negative effect of what she has done. People do not learn without consequence to teach them. Please consider this.
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Well I guess "confused" is a good title for this thread.
I'm really unsure of what to do. She says she's trying, I'm not so sure. She's only 1 month out of no contact. Treating her like a queen for 3 months and having a platonic relationship after what she did is not exactly encouraging.
Me BH 40
Her XWW 34
Married 12 years
Feb 09 - PA #1 (w/married alcoholic)
Apr 09 - Started recovery, thought things were going well until...
Jan 10 - PA #2 (w/different guy on Facebook)
Dec 10 - Divorced
Now - very happy; no regrets
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Well, her friend told me she broke the no contact this week. She denied it. That explains a lot.
Me BH 40
Her XWW 34
Married 12 years
Feb 09 - PA #1 (w/married alcoholic)
Apr 09 - Started recovery, thought things were going well until...
Jan 10 - PA #2 (w/different guy on Facebook)
Dec 10 - Divorced
Now - very happy; no regrets
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Like I said, no respect. She is lying. Her friend has no reason to lie to you. Time to pull away. JMHO.
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