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When she says you are overreacting, just say 'Fine. Prove it. Hand me your phone right now so I can take a look at it.' Haha, I think the fact that she physically sleeps on her phone is proof enough that he is not overreacting. 
ex-WW had 2 PAs in first 2 years. Buh-bye.
Divorce finalized: 1/28/09
Now just living and loving again.
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You know, it's been TWO WEEKS since we told geeman to man up and expose this. He chose not to. He is now reaping the results of being too afraid to do anything.
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Is she a stay at home mom. What is her income like. Do you have any leverage regarding closing joint bank accounts and canceling cards? If you do file for divorce, you will be able to stop her from incurring more debt.
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I have now exposed wife to significant family members, but OM has no one to expose to - single living with sister who already knows, send email to his work but do not think this will bother him.
Wife continues to be less than forth coming but "hates my snooping" "I can,t live like this". difficult to even look at her at the moment.
Steps are being taken to monitor any future contact, I am doubting my ability to hang on in or my willingness to rebuilding the marriage, I am still sick in the stomach.
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{{{Geeman}}} You're doing what has to be done. Even if you end up apart, people's knowledge may help her learn what she's done wrong.
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Geeman,
Why don't you try rereading your thread a couple of times.
Take all of the advice given and I mean every bit, make 2 lists, one 'have done' and the other 'have not done'.
Come back and post your lists.
We can all figure this out. Let's see what has been done and what has been missed.
M'd 22 years
BW-me
D-Day 08/08 LTA
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You are wasting your time, money,and your LIMITED REMAINING supply of love you have left for your WW. She is digging in her heels and YOU are giving her traction. Hope For Couples in Crisis Best of luck.
Divorced:
"Never shelter anyone from the realities of their decisions": Noodle
You believe easily what you hope for ernestly
Infidelity does not kill marriages, the lying does
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Geeman,
Why don't you ask the mods to move your thread over to GQII forum.
There are more eyes over there, different voices is maybe what you need.
How are you doing?
M'd 22 years
BW-me
D-Day 08/08 LTA
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