Is she a stay at home mom. Or does she work? If she is a stay at home mom, close any joint bank and credit accounts. Give her no money. Tell her that if you can't trust her with your heart, you can't trust her with your money. Don't rush out and start another relationship. Like I said cut off the cash and pay your bills on line.

I have been home for almost a week now. I have done all that I can to not think about to much and to focus on making her fell special. I make comments here and there about it not being right talking to other men online, but I dont push it at her. She did give me her passwords, but she could have new accounts at this point. I have not looked in to any keylogging or tapping because I want to trust her. I will keep an eye out for signs and if I see any I will start checking up on her again, but untell then I am going to try and love her and show her how much I care.

I can understand "wanting to trust" but there is the dynamic of pervious infidelity in your M.

You need to snoop, find out what it is your dealing with and then decide a appropriate course of action.

Get the keylogger, stop burying your head in the sand, or your going to have alot more grief in the future when you get blindsided.

Think about it for awhile before you fire back a retort.

keylogger!!!

There can not be trust until proven at this point.

Trust? Mmmmm, sorry.... what's that they say? Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on ME

Yea, Im back again. Im that stupid guy that gives his wife the go ahead on cheating by always saying "we can work through this, but if you do it again its over". yea right!
The latest news is that he is now her teddy bear, and she loves him as he loves her. She knew it was wrong, but "she has a problem and it is an addiction" so we need to get help. I never did understand this WE NEED HELP crap because you cant stay faithfull. I even emailed the other man and he informed me that while my wife noticed I was realy trying to be who she wanted me to be, it wasnt enough.
What does a man do at this point? I am the one that will lose the house, kids, friends, money, and everything else I worked so hard for over the past 20 years. I have busted my butt so that she can have a good life and stay at home with the kids. when she wanted more kids I said ok even though I think we were to old. She wanted a house so I got her a house. This woman keeps wanting and I keep giving just to hear that I am a bad husband because I dont cry. hat crap. If I get away on the weekend to do my hobby she claims that she is rejected and somewhat uses it as an excuse for her actions... again crap. where can I go to find a real chat place with a real person that isnt porn driven or a bunch of dirty crap?