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Think on it like this (this is what helped me through the Wookie's adultry)...if'n the marriage WASN'T such a good thing, the advesary wouldn't be workin' so hard to tear it up.

We must have something REALLY special for the horned one to want to destroy it so much, right?



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Originally Posted by Dealan-de
Think on it like this (this is what helped me through the Wookie's adultry)...if'n the marriage WASN'T such a good thing, the advesary wouldn't be workin' so hard to tear it up.

We must have something REALLY special for the horned one to want to destroy it so much, right?

Very, very true.

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I need a no contact letter. I backslid.

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Have you told Spartan?


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Yes and understandably, he is livid. He doesn't know what he wants to do with me right now.

He wanted OM's name and address which I gave him. He also wants me to send out a certified NC letter which I should have done a long time ago. Not sending one always left the door open and for me, that's an invitation for failure.

I will change my cell number tonight.

I don't want him to leave me, but how can I blame him? What I did was completely unnecessary, stupid and selfish.


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Originally Posted by MutedSparkle
I need a no contact letter. I backslid.

You called OM?

or

OM called YOU?






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OM texted/called. I responded.

He called and was still wanting me to leave Spartan and was angry that I chose my marriage over him. Said some very hurtful things to me.

Spartan is sick to his stomach and is coming home for the day.

Needless to say, we have a lot to talk about. If anyone wants to contact me privately, e-mail the admin.

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You're being too vague!

Exactly what transpired?

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OM texted me. I texted back. OM asked me to call. I called him. We talked for 25 minutes. etc. etc. etc.






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WHY didn't you change your number??!! This should have happened immediately so OM CAN'T contact you. Go down and get the number changed ASAP!

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He texted me and I texted back. He called me and left me a message and said he wanted to talk to me about something (sounded serious). I called back and we got into a pretty heated arguement for about 30 minutes.


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Originally Posted by MutedSparkle
He texted me and I texted back. He called me and left me a message and said he wanted to talk to me about something (sounded serious). I called back and we got into a pretty heated arguement for about 30 minutes.

You could've called MEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!!!!!!!!!!

I'm disappointed...

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Originally Posted by MutedSparkle
He texted me and I texted back. He called me and left me a message and said he wanted to talk to me about something (sounded serious).


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I'm on the phone with my girlfriend from church and I'm getting an earful. She's all about transparency with me. "If he wants to smell your panties when you get home from work, you let him."

Spartan is home now and I'm scared.

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MS,

The only thing I can advise is don't give Spartan that lame excuse that you thought OM had something serious to talk to you about. Would POSOM have left a message to tell you your children or a loved one was dead? No. Would he have left a message to tell you the Earth was about to blow up? No. WTH could POSOM possibly have to say that was so serious you'd trample over your BH again? Admit you were weak and foolish. Nothing is more infuriating than excuses.


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Excellent point. Don't try to B-S your way out of this. You screwed up and hopefully can show Spartan you truly want to be with him. I hope you can understand his doubts.


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BR,

You are exactly right on all accounts. I haven't offered Spartan ANY excuses or tried to back out of telling the truth with any of his questions. I have sincerely apologized to him. I will endure his anger...he has every right to be!

I had to go to the drug store to pick up a prescription for him and DS1. He didn't want to go and the kids aren't here, so I called Mrs. W and had her stay on the phone with me from the time I left until I returned to the house.

I also filled out a phone counseling request with Steve Harley and am waiting to be contacted with a time and date.

No matter what happens (if Spartan decides to leave me) I will not go back to the OM.

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You fell for the classic ploy by an OP. There's always something "serious". How else are they going to trick you into calling?

I mean honestly, what could have been so serious for him to contact you? He obviously isn't pregnant crazy and there isn't anything else you should care about as far as he's concerned!

Again - change your number and he won't be able to contact you in the first place!

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What was the plan supposed to be if OM ever called?

Did you have a plan in place?





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Originally Posted by Lostin2008
Excellent point. Don't try to B-S your way out of this. You screwed up and hopefully can show Spartan you truly want to be with him. I hope you can understand his doubts.

Yes, absolutely.

He is in bed, sleeping. I will leave it up to him to decide when he wants to talk or what he wants to do. I think that any effort by me right now will not be taken very seriously. That won't deter me from doing it, though. Words follow actions. My words right now don't hold any merit.

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Originally Posted by tst
What was the plan supposed to be if OM ever called?
Don't answer.


Originally Posted by tst
Did you have a plan in place?

I didn't have a strong plan because it still left an open avenue for contact. I will change my number.

Until it gets changed, I put him in my phone with the name of DO NOT ANSWER.

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