Spartan, IF this is you I apologize. However, I just find it hard to believe. Again protecting a woman who has tore your family apart, repeatedly risked giving you STD's, seemingly has no time for her own children yet is overly concerned about her appearance. Again I apologize, yet at least in your revenge affair it was with a person who wanted to spend time with your children. I may be wrong but I thought one of you said you had a child in Kindergarten. That is SUCH a precious age! I love spending time with kids in that age group because they are so adorable and absorb info like a sponge. It would kill me to be out working on how I look or eating out and socializing instead of being with my cute little kindergartner!!

Again if this is you Spartan..my sincere apologies. I admire your strength and determination. I love that you continue to stand tall for your children even while your wife continues with her shameful behavior all the while trying to cover it up the the precious name of Christ. God Bless you and your children, I hope that you find someone deserving of your good heart.

Natalie, we have seen this before, with Zen protecting his wife, Coho. So it's entirely likely that this is Spartan, though I could see how you might think it MS.

Listen, my FWH did the SAME THING to me...told me the A was over and that we were in recovery, yadda yadda yadda, only to find out 10 MONTHS later that the A had never ended.

He was here on MB at the time as well...was posting and making it "look like" we were really in recovery. The only problem was that he hadn't given up his drug of choice yet.

This is what a "False Recovery" looks like...and it often takes a huge blow-up like this for the WS to "get it" and kick the habit for good.

The biggest problem is that it kills a LOT of the love the BS has for the WS, these false recoveries. It makes recovery MUCH harder ~ there is just so much hurt, resentment and anger to be overcome.

OH, thats just my opinion..a feeling I have. I have been reading from the beginning and am probably wrong. That is why I apologized in advance if I am just wanted to state my feelings. I understand what a false recover is, my point is that once you had the big blow up...like Spartan just had, were you still protecting him on MB forum? Just wondering because if I just found out what he did, what not even 10 days ago?(may be off) I am not sure I would still be protecting. I mean he is saying that she is another person, how do you become a new person overnight or in a week? She sounds the same to me. So I may be wrong, my point is that he has never done anything on this thread really EXCEPT protect her, that seems to be the primary goal of this thread if you look at his 3 short postings. I do apologize again Spartan. It is absolutely none of my business and I don't know why this story is resonating with me so strongly!! I just feel so bad for Spartan and those children. So again Spartan may God bless you and your children in a very special way! And may God have mercy on your wife..

Also I just want to say again that I won't post on here again..it isn't really something I should be involved in. Just that when I began here I was reading along with the whole 'Muted Sparkle's journey to Spartan' thread. My heart goes out to them, but I am sorry I interfered. I am really not usually like that, I guess it is easier to stand up for things online..LOL.

I welcome you to join me on my thread if you have questions about me.

This thread was created by my husband and has in no way protected me. He exposed my dishonesty here. He doesn't sit at a desk all day like I do and only posts at night when he has time and is interested in doing it. He and I differ about posting to threads. I'm an active poster and he is more a reader.

I'm here because it is the place where I learned how to deal with the mess of the A. My path was D and it is working for me. I think I owe back to the community for the help I received.

My life is not a party since I am a single parent now but I'm happy and the children are happy.

Spartan,

Wanna share your thoughts on the session with Jennifer?

Some of our sessions with her triggered me. Was that an issue for you at all?

You don't. I think you're right to doubt this new and improved MS and Spartan should too. It takes a LONG time to restore trust and to change a mindset.

I just pray MS isn't yanking someone's chain again.