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It's not just you. Everyone does this.
Schnarch says this is a NORMAL stage in marriage. Wow, I can relate to this. When my DH left, I was LOST. I could NOT imagine life without him in it. I was stumbling day to day. Funny thing, is that's exactly how DH describes the time he was gone, "he'd lost his identity."
Widowed 11/10/12 after 35 years of marriage
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“In a sense now, I am homeless. For the home, the place of refuge, solitude, love-where my husband lived-no longer exists.” Joyce Carolyn Oates, A Widow's Story
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I, too, can relate to this. I said over and over to him "who am I without you?" and, sadly, I meant it. My individuality had become blurred over the years, and I didn't even realize it. It was a slap in the face big time (and a wake up call) to know that I'd been cut out of his life which I thought was essentially MY life.
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