The 29th will be my our aniversary as well. I think I'm having it delivered the day before. I can't talk to her that day and hope I won't be hurting too much.

Be their filter. Protection from reality is a myth. Be their filter and guide. Protection itself would necessitate too much for you to deal with because they would see through anything you try to hide from them.

Treat them the way you've always treated them and they'll see the difference.

I have no children myself but hope that my perspective might help you. I've always believed in truth.

Rod, there are all kinds of realities. Today is my 29th anniversary. It has been miserable. More so because of what I have learned here about what real, happy marriages should be. Just trying to tell you that there are all kinds of realities. Honestly, it is what YOU make of it. So it's miserable? Change course. Find something that WON'T make you miserable. You deserve better.

I am a sailor lost at sea . Each day holds a whole new adventure. I never can foresee the rough waters ahead .I must only take them on head first when the winds of despair begin to blow . ( Had a better day yesterday and so far today).

Are you on anti-depressants?

Are you exercising?

Volunteering?

To answer the ?'s .Yes minimal
Yes ,whenever I can
Volunteering -No
Attending a weekly group session put on through the area Catholic Diocesse(Sp?).helping a great deal

My little guy returned yesterday after school .Upon returning home from work I was greeted by a leaping child telling me how much he missed me and how much he loved me . Time may heal but nothing beats a great hug . My 13 yr old had left all the easter candy left by "The Easter Bunny" for his brother's return .They both escaped this mess as they ran sbout the house searching for treasure. My new mindset (reset daily) revolves around the idea that I will have to willingly share my son(s) with the WW and the Om and there is nothing I can do but accept that

My WW inquired as to when our 6 yr old son would be returning to her for visitation .I havent figured how she can no longer count to 4(Days) .I informed her that she was to pick him up saturday morning .She then proceeded to tell me how unffair it is that I havent had him during the past weekends and how he could stay with me a few days extra if I wished .WHAT????????? Is he cramping her style ? Is her guilt so great that she doesnt like him being with her .What the _ell is going on ? I quickly stopped myself from questioning her motives. I will never figure them out anyway !!!!!!!!!!!! He is going to go with her at 6pm saturday .I can only figure she has some big plans for friday night .GO figure

How can she even suggest that he staty with me for more than 4 days .What the hell is wprong with her .Was she abducted by aliens or something ??????? I jsut died as he drove away with her .When will this Crap end??????????????????????

Don't get angry. Just ask her some pointed questions (zingers). Like, Its tough being a single mom isn't it? Or, gees honey he just started coming for visits again, is he cramping your style already? Or, what kind of mom, wants to postpone picking up her six year old on her designated days?

She left the whole family, like your 13 year old said.

I am trying to stay away from mud slinging or zingers .I jsut dont think they will help .I will get nothing from throwing _hit into the wind other than smelly. Sorry .I am trying to have as little contact with her as possible .Plan B without the letter (Advice from my lawyer ,no letter as it may be held against me for custody)

Well by now you know that I couldn't resist a zinger. Why? Because they can make people think.

My Minister over the last 5 weeks was doing a series of sermons on "Happiness is a choice". It was very interesting and needed timing in my life(Funny how that works). As of yesterday I am going to try my damndest to start being a positive thinker instead of my usual analytical pessimist . I have to try and stick with that as best I can. Thinking otherwise certainly hasnt worked so far in my life .

Well they say that a pessimist will never be disappointed...

I think it was Billy Graeme that said, he has read God's word from beginning to end... Yep! we win.

My little guy and I (Older son went out with friends) went and saw "17 Again" tonight . Of course the movie dealt with a couple in trouble at the brink of divorce. It is very hard to turn off my mind .

My WW just called asking if I wanted to keep my little guy till Monday .She was supposed to pick him up Sunday morning . I'll take it !!!!!!! It breaks my heart to see who she has become !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Note the schedule change and don't alter the schedule to accommodate her. Use her unreliability in a court of law.

I have been keeping a journal from Nov 1st . Hopefully I dont need ammunition but I will use it if necessary .

In talking with the OM's wife (Soon to be Ex) I find out that my WW and he were at a party Saturday night .That was far more important than having your own 6 year old son for visitation . ICANNOT BELIEVE HOW SAD AND ANGRY I AM ABOUT THIS .IF I DIDNT GET MY SON FOR THE FULL 4 DAYS I WOULD DIE .WHO THE HELL HAS ABDUCTED THE WOMAN I WAS MARRIED TO .HOW DO I HANDLE MY RAGE.

My WW came by with a letter for my 13yr old today .After reading I asked him if he thought I should .He didnt care .He was laughing at the time . In the letter my WW tells him how screwed up everything is and it is all her fault . She goes on to say how much she misses everyone that she has given up (i.e. my parents)through this . She states "I dont know if your father told you but I hadnt been happy for about a year before I left ". This was news to me .I guess she and the person I was married to have never met .She ,may not have been happy but , it would have been nice of her to let me in on that fact (or anyone else around us). This letter was full of regrets directed to my son .OH WELL .SUCK IT UP BUTTERCUP!!!!!!!!!

PS-The reason my son was chuckling was because he found it funny that "She couldnt tell the truth even in a letter ."

It is sad to see the world my ,used to be , wonderful wife has created for herself . I am very glad to see the tides are starting to turn for the twisted WW I now see . As human nature would have it she is trying presently ,along with the scum OM , to buy off my 6 year old .Everytime he is going there for his 4 days with her he asks "what are you going to buy me this time . I actually find it funny .I will not get into a "Appease my guilt shopping fest" with my WW or the scum OM . My son respects me with or without new toys to offer .In fact I think he respects me more for not changing .I have always provided what he needed when he needed and deserved it .

Oh, believe me, they know the difference! As you are seeing firsthand, children do NOT respect bribes. They may want them, being kids, but it brings a bad taste in their mouth...called sarcasm.

So sad your boys have to watch her deconstruct. But they are learning a lifetime's worth.