Born yesterday, totally healthy baby boy - just as cute as his dad was (my son Sam). Anyway, the GF did not change her mind, she signed all the papers and refused to see the baby. I did go into make sure she was feeling ok this morning and she seems relieved and is recovering well.

Now the hard part starts for Sam.

Hi 6. Cool!

...but I wonder how she'll feel about this in 20 years?

Heck, in 2 months?

-ol' 2long

6,
Congratulations! I wondered if she would change her mind. Sam is going to be fine because he has you and sister's who are going to go gaga to play and take care of their new doll. Are you guys close to each other location wise or far? That makes a difference too. Thanks for the update.

GG (formerly ggirl615 - couldn't recover my passord).

Sam is in Boston and we are in Virginia, so it is a bit of a trip. I'm staying with him for a couple of weeks and we will manage some help until the summer when he comes home. All of the medical schools are being very supportive but I would still prefer that he do it close to home.

Oh, that's too bad about the distance. It's so much easier when family is close by. Kudo's to Sam for taking this on but my God it will not be easy these first few months. You seem like a man with a plan so I'm sure you've got him covered. Will he be moving closer to home after summer or will he return to Boston - actually after a few months he may decide to move closer to home sooner than you think. If you don't mind me asking - what happened to GF - is she going back home or is at the same college?

Congratulations! Sam is definitely lucky to have you!

Tell Sam to always use condoms in the future. Even if the woman says she is on the pill. And take this advice yourself also.

GG,

Sam's GF is doing fine physically, but she wants nothing to do with the baby. She is out of the hospital and I dropped by her apartment to make sure she is ok and has enough to eat. I forgot how quickly young people bounce back.

We spoke and she just wants to put this behind her for now. Sam is too overwhelmed with the baby to be angry at her, and I think he feels sorry for her. I'll check back with her over the next couple of weeks to make sure she is recovering.

Bubbles,

We have had some more birth control discussions. How on earth two premed's thought the rhythm method would work, I will never know.

I am sad for them! There is a Catholic joke. "I was born from the rhythm method" or something like that.

6 -

Sam has a tough road but no doubt you will be there for him. There will be a grfather-father-son bond that will be strong. I have been curious of your situation since I am fixin to join the ranks of being a grandparent. In my case though its my teenage daughter and she is due in April.

By coincidence her oldest brother is in the pharmacy field and the middle son will doing his MCAT as he will graduate with a bio chem degree.

In my case - my wife and I will have to circle the wagons to make sure our dtr finishes HS and College. Otherwise she and her dtr will have a life of poverty and hard work. I dont mind it now after a getting through the emotional phases and in fact look forward to it.

Its been 17 yrs the baby furniture and extras are much different and not to mention a bit more pricey too. I think we are set and ready. I guess the -Go- will be on her good time.

Just wanted to add my two cents - keep us posted. No t/j intended.

Bubbles,

It will be tough for both of them and not ideal for the baby, but I can't make myself sad. I already love the new little one (named after me).

Rwinger,

I think the situation for your daughter is more difficult. In many ways Sam is an adult, and we have the money and family to support him through medical school. I wish the best to your daughter and you.

6,
How did it go with two men and a baby??

GG

gg,

The trip was great with the baby. Now it is the turn for the great-grandparents. Sam will be home over the summer then off to med-school and on his own with little Gabe.

Have you seen the movie "Three Men and a Baby?" I'm sure you have. You must be a little sad having to return although I'm sure you appreciate the great-grandparents helping out - are they your parents or WW's side?

GG

gg

Right now it is the WW's side and then in two weeks my parents. I have seen the movie. it is sad to leave but Sam has to learn sometime. Also I was missing the other children, it is hard when they are in separate places.

How did Mother's day go with the kids?

GG

Oh well,

We had a nice fun mothers day with both of the grandmothers. xWW did try to inviter herself over at the last minute, and we spoke on the phone. I was polite, as always, but told her I needed a plan from her to repair the damage she has done.

The only mean part from me was when she asked "Don't you want to see me?", to which I replied with great restraint. "I don't ever want to see you again." No yelling or names or anything. She just hung up when I said that.

So a little drama for me, but none for the children.

Oh and my LF and I had an actual date. She asked me to go to a work dinner with her. It was nice, but I'm still not ready for a real relationship.

I think that your LF is already in a real relationship with you, in her mind, even if you are not with her in yours. She has shown you off in public as her companion. Does not suggest that she thinks of you as her boyfriend?

I think she could be very hurt some months down the line when she asks you to make a commitment if you tell her you do not want to. Either she will ask or she will just go ahead and have the baby anyway.

A baby is what she is angling for. That is what was behind her wish to spend time with you and your grandchild. That was what she meant when she said she was envious of what you seem to have with your kids. (I think that was how she approached you first, wasn't it?)

If she has a baby, then unless you do settle down - enthusiastically - with her you are setting up another child to have a broken family.