How does your eldest feel about you dating someone who could be his friend?

WHEW glad you are not counting on her to manage the birth control. But who is managing the "broken heart control"?

6, you know I wish you well. And I know how much you have needed the ego boost this kind of relationship brings. I just worry for the entanglements ahead.

Bubbles, Catperson,

I know everyone on here is trying to help, but always nice to get a reminder. I know we jumped right to sex, but we are taking it super super slowly on the real relationship. She works 60 hours a week, and I'm still kind of broken and dealing with lots of children and prepping for the grandchild at home over the summer.

Sam would be elated to hear I am dating anyone, maybe not so happy that she was only 5 when he was born. He still has such hatred for his mom that he would just be happy to have her know that I am dating (?) a 27 year old lawyer. Maybe I should tell during this part of the year when she is 6 years older?

The real question is what will my teenage daughters think? I've spoke with my IC, who is also our family counselor. He thinks it is too soon to add anyone, no matter age, to the family mix right now.

Bubbles, you made me reflect a bit. It is probably too late to avoid a broken heart, in either of us. But that is a very long way from more serious commitment.

6,
Your kids are grieving the loss of a mother - even if you may not see it that way - they need to go through their grieving stages. Your IC is absolutely right about timeframe. There is one area where you have been very confident and that is about your kids. I'm not convinced you are concerned about "LF abandoning kids." Just maybe you are afraid of her abandoning you when she is brought into the reality of a life of a father with five kids. You are shielding and protecting your LF because that is what you do - you protect and sheild women from reality enabling independent behavior (you did this with your wife - read your threads if you doubt me). - Just an observation. Don't respond - just think about it for a while.


GG

--They named the baby "6yl"?!?!?!?

Very Funny Barbie,

I thought he was being named after me, Gabriel (because my parents thought I would be an angel). Turns out he just took my name and now I'm called "Grandpa".

Hey guys can you give me some advice over here on this new issue.

http://forum.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2286366#Post2286366

I hope that link works