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Atena-
I need to clarify... I'm not in Plan B, I'm still trying to Plan A.
I have discussed with my lawyer the concept of Plan B. He understands but has advised not to do this yet as I need to appear cooperative with the judges (one for the divorce hearings and the other for the custody/visitation issues) even with the explanation of it affecting my emotional health. WH's lawyer (she is an off-the-wall, shark-lady B**CH) would jump all over this and run with it. Also, my sons' law guardian is recommending to be cooperative as well as family counseling (judge will rule on this in December).
So, I feel stuck between a rock and a hard place right now...
Just a quick clarification.... hope to get back on later after work to respond more to your post... it was thought provoking and made me think of current WH situation from a different angle.
Kateydid
BW-me 40; WH-39
M-17yrs
DSs-15,12,9
DDay- 6/28/08
WH files D 11/21/08; moves out 12/18/08
WHs D petition dismissed 11/4/09 due to Lack of Grounds
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Hi kateydid, I can see your situation really hard.
Well Plan B is very hard but it makes you move on. I know I will not contact my H because it is useless but also because I will stick to my guns with plan B. Sometimes I am tempted to call him to say: I love you do not do this to me. Or... I miss you so much please let's have a chat.
But then these are just passing thoughts. I know it would not help. He is gone, for good. And I have to move on.
atena
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