Hi CL,


I agree with SD. It looks to me you are managing to stay as 'level-headed' as anyone possibly could given the circumstances.

Life, after THIS, most likely will be a 'piece of cake'...don't you think? So, hang in there... stay the course... I know you didn't ask for the rollercoaster ride but it WILL end... so, see if you can focus on the view while you're on it !

Luna!! Glad to see you back. I hope all is well. I'll check up on your thread here soon.

Just talked to my accountant. WH's atty is back around, now with a business broker to do a business eval. What is WH thinking??? This will probably cost him more than my business is worth!!! Guys, I own a little 1600 Sq Ft retail store in a strip mall. I've yet to be profitable.

WH will have to pay a few hours of my accountant's time, his atty's time, and the fee to have the eval done.

Why is this man trying to destroy me? I just don't understand the motive here. Is there something I'm missing?

Just bide your time, Chai. He likely knows he's wasting money but he's hoping YOU run out of money first.

Just wait, he'll hang himself.

My atty agrees Karma, and he wants WH to pay for the rope!

Friday I got notification that I won't be able to cash an insurance check that I have coming to me in July. WH has put some sort of restraining order on that too. I was counting on that to get me through the rest of the summer, but looks like it will be a battle over that now too.

I'm tired of this fight that I've been forced into. It's starting to really take a toll on me. I don't think that I have much more energy or money to keep fighting. Do you think that waywards even think about what they will lose in a divorce?

You know, you should look at the only bright side of this.

I've probably said this before, but figure out what he pays his lawyer etc and then figure out how much time he spends pursuing you.

Just wait--when this money stuff runs out, you'll find him going after you over Chaibaby ("Maybe she's not taking care of him").

This @$$hole just...ugggh! He's so frustrating! He's trying so hard to hang YOU that...ugh.

Chai, this man and Peachy's x are in the same league....if dropped into a sewage processing plant, they would gum up the works.

Karma and Cinders, you two brighten my day (or night as it is).

Cinders, my WH makes a whole lot less money than Peachy's X, so I don't know how he is paying the legal bills. He's suing me for them, so I guess he isn't paying them. Man, I've drawn the short straw all the way around on this deal.

As my friend keeps telling me.....Chai, something good will happen any day now.....

I hope there is a special place in hell for some people. I know that's not very princessy or very nice or very kind....but God is gonna need a special place to which he can send some of these people.

If he dies before the divorce is finalized, get him cremated, have him put in the plastic bag, glass jar, or cardboard box of your choice and put him in your trunk and get on the road. I will meet you HERE and we can build a campfire at a campground and throw him on for good measure.

Maybe we can mix the ashes with some of that wonderful ice cream they talk about.

It would be funny if it weren't so expensive, not to mention heartbreaking.

He told DD yesterday that Miss Mullet would like to call her and DD said no. She's starting to see her dad in a different light now. Anyway, that was a little bit of a trigger for me, but I find that I'm getting over them a little faster these days.

Based on what I have pieced together, that A started sometime in 2005. Considering that it started out with him telling a boatload of lies about being D'd etc. I'm surprised that it hasn't ended yet. I guess he hasn't run out of money yet. If I don't get stuck with his atty fees, it may still happen....

Funny, yesterday I looked at the picture that DD has of her and her dad, and I saw a different person. Pastey looking. If I saw him come up on Match.com etc. I would probably hit the "next loser" button....

I maintained that, if my not-then-x had died before the divorce was final, that is what I would have done. I would have taken half of him and let his parents have the other half. I would not have involved my children. I am smarter than that - would NOT have asked them to help me make sure their daddy burned in Hell.

Chai, hugs, prayers and blessings to you tomorrow and Tuesday during court.

When I went into mediation I wrote across top of the paper ...I promised DD16. I needed to remember my D and my family. XH was only looking at money because he is so in the fog. I needed to think about love, family, faith and hope. My prayer warriors texted me all through this.

Know you are not alone and God has his arms wrapped around you.

Prayers from California going up for you, Chai!

And remember we are with you in spirit, in heart and praying from PNW too.

I love you Chai. Remember, G-d is protecting you, on your side and wants what is best for you.

Thanks Hope, FF, and Queenie. I have a beast of a headache and my stomach is in knots. I have to remember that WH and I are now on different sides. After 36 years, I just can't get my brain wrapped around that, but I have to fight for my future. I'm not sure why I keep fighting with myself over it. It just doesn't seem real or right I guess. And to be honest, I am one of those people who runs from conflict. I just hope I don't fall apart.

I will update as soon as I can......

You will be strong.

You are in my prayers, ChairLover.

Do not let fear seep in. Replace any fear with confidence in the fact that you are doing the right thing. And you are standing up for what is right. And trust in yourself. Whatever happens, happens.

Yep, you are on different teams this time. He is not your friend. He is a traitor.

And talk to your lawyer before you walk in. Just my gut talking here -- but look him in the eye and tell him that you believe he will do what is right. That you are confident that he will defend, protect and fight for you. That God will be with him while he argues your case. Boost his ego a little. If he's older, tell him to defend you as though you're his daughter. If he's younger, defend you as though you're his mother. My attorney's Godson is my son's friend. I told him to protect my son as though he's defending his own Godson. Hey... whatever works.

And you, missy. Look fabulous. And know that you are a woman of faith, of integrity, of honor, of loyalty, of courage, of patience. Hold that gorgeous head of yours (and expensive hairdo) high. Smile. Feel good. You will be able to sleep at night knowing you didn't compromise your beliefs and values.

But do not, do not give up. And if you feel frustrated or angry or confused, just turn in over to God.

Go get em, girl. WE ARE PROUD OF YOU.

Everything HH said Chai.

Prayers going up for you for tomorrow

Chai, wish you all the best - be strong

Chai, I know how hard is is to beleive you are on opposite sides now...That is one of the hardest things for me to accept about WH, He does not have my best interest at heart anymore, only his own and OW...

Be strong, we are all praying for you, Just keep thinking that your H is not there anymore, he is someone else right now, this is a different person...Thats what help gets me get thru it all.

God is on your side, and so are all your MB friends..Hang in there.