Dear Lord,
Please support Chai in fighting the "good fight" today and stay by her side and protect her in your grace.

Dear Lord,
Take her wayward and slap him silly and give him a day of conviction and clarity for when he needs to be in the fog the most.

I just got off the phone with Chai and she is such a trooper. She will update later as soon as she gets the chance.

Hi all,

Not much time, but will just give a recap. There were some ups and downs. My atty did a Shiny and sent the career counselor out with his tail between his legs. He has turned out to be quite good in the courtroom. WHs atty also got me a few times and I said some stupid things,but my atty said he will recover tomorrow when he has WH on the stand. I was on all most all day today.

I hated it. I was so nervous that at one point my teeth were chattering. I also had a few bathroom trips, but I finally calmed down. I have a sore throat though.

It was sad really. WH does not look good, has gained some weight and certainly does not look blisfully happy. All he did was scowl the entire time. The judge asked if we both agreed that the M was irreconcilable and we both said yes. WH hesitated for a few seconds, but I am not reading anything at all into it.

One interesting point was that the judge said we could not bring up infidelity so my atty explained later why he didnt ask anything along those lines. He said he can still ask WH tomorrow about giving marital funds to Miss Mullet.

So, WH is on tomorrow and then it's done I guess.

I will update more tomorrow evening when I get home....

Awesome! So did they bring a hair stylist in to discuss how much your hair costs? j/k so ridiculous the lengths they have gone about your hair and your career prospects.

(((Chai))) You are in my prayers

Hey Chai, sorry your goin thru all this crap...when all is said and done I hope you get the peace and happiness you deserve..

Woo-hoo! Way to go Chai's attorney! Maybe he's like some of the kids on swimteam that I used to coach. They would be unremarkable in work-outs, but once they were in the meet-they were amazing!

Tomorrow should be interesting with your attorney grilling WH.

You will be in my prayers.

I'm with JT on this. Win one battle at a time in the courtroom. I'm hoping your A is a "sleeper"!

Chai, the ABSOLUTE worse is over. No matter what happens from here, you have FACED the enemy & come out the other side. Just facing your STBX is a hurdle you didn't even really talk about before, but it was a BIG milestone that you have passed SO well.

Goddess that you are,,,,,sit back. Gather your resources. You are almost thru this journey. And no matter what he does or does not do -- no matter what the ruling of the court,,,YOU MS CHAI are an ABSOLUTE GODDESS!! STRONG WISE HEATLTHY and so much more.

He is fighting you BECAUSE he knows all of that and is desparately trying to find a way to make it Not So,,,which will NEVER EVER happen!!

Think of all of us with you again tomorrow! Luv ya, girl!

FF, Jean, Still, JT, Bugs, Queenie (sorry if I missed anyone)
Thanks for checking on me.

Bugs, I hope you are right and the worst is over. I know that WH will lie tomorrow, so that will be hard to hear.

At this point, whatever the judge decides I will live with.

It was clear that WH has spent a ton of money. So have I, so I expect when this is over the two of us together will have spent almost 100K in atty fees to fight over 60K in debt. The sad thing is that at one point I offered to take the debt if he would give me my 401K, but WH would just not agree to it. It is apparent that at this point his hatred is driving the actions. He is consumed with it.

And yes, my hair was a big focus today. The judge finally said that he didn't want to hear anything else about hair.

I don't know. Everyone I know who is D'd tells me that I will have a weight lifed off me when this is all over. I sure hope so. At this point I don't see it, but maybe I will later on.

And guess what? I was so focused on looking "Goddessy" that I just realized I forgot to put on half my makeup this morning. I missed the eyeliner and mascara. Now I know why I kept thinking I looked bad whenever I passed the restroom mirror today. Duh. I'll do better tomorrow.

Ditto to what all your supporters already said.

And about the makeup. Think of today as the dress rehersal... the appetizer...tomorrow's the main event... the main course. His turn to fry.

WH may be thinking of how you looked today. But tomorrow... when he's on the stand and trying to weasel his way around fact versus fiction he will look across the room and see beautiful, fabulous, made up with AWESOME hair -- Chai.

And he should studder. He should be thinking "Why the hell did I let her go?" And maybe God -- in his way -- will let the sun shine through a window or a particular light will be turned such a way -- as to give you a GLOW.

So, shine, baby, shine. You done good. We are proud of you.

One more day, Chai, and the hard part is over. Then it's settling the accounts as directed by the Judge and you slowly move on. It's going to be okay. You are doing so well. I am in awe

Hang in there, Chai. I've been following, but have zero faith in our court system, but am praying for you.

Chai - just wanted to throw my voice out there in support, too. No matter what happens in court, you are an awesome woman.

Give 'em heyall.

Head up, chest out, and ROAR!

Fox

GO CHAI GO!
GO CHAI GO!

((((Chai))))

(((Chai))) We're here rooting for you and try not to snicker (or flat out guffaw) when he's starts spewing his ridiculous, self-serving, wayward crap-- cause you know it's coming.

Eagerly awaiting the remaining news...

I'm starting to worry.............

Me too!

A long wait can only mean it went badly...right?

Or she could be out celebrating................

But, sheesh, she knows we are waiting to hear.