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I've been busy so I havnt had a chance to tell my friend about all this stuff. But she texted me last night saying her H finally told her why he doesn't want oral anymore.
1. he's embarrassed at how qickly it makes him finish.
2. he's afraid he might taste bad.
3. he feels the urge to pee and is afraid he might pee in her mouth.
Men, are these real reasons?
Still doesn't explain why he's uninterested in sex though.
Me,BS age 24
WH age 23
DD age 3,DS age 2
WH deployed March '08-March '09
4 affairs
Plan A/B~complicated
I filed D 8/4/09
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If this is a recent change in behavior - perhaps he caught something at the bacholor party ..
items 2 and 3 above sound like covering for an STD...
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1. he's embarrassed at how qickly it makes him finish. Yeah whatever??!!
2. he's afraid he might taste bad. Who CARES??!!
3. he feels the urge to pee and is afraid he might pee in her mouth. NOT BIOLIGICALLY POSSIBLE IF HE IS "EXCITED"
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Hmmmm...STD is sounding likely! Some STDs do make the guy feel as though they have to pee.
I just asked H about #3 by the way. Just off the cuff..."H, when we doing the OS thing, have you ever felt like you had to pee".
His response? HUH? NEVER!
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My H has that problem (#3) all the time, just generally with SF. If we start, he sometimes has to stop and go take care of it before we can finish.
He also states #2 a lot - not for turning down anything, but in that he wants to be considerate of me.
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If there is the #3 problem, have a doctor examine the prostate to rule out underlying medical condition.
Me:BW, FWH 1DD 1DS
Status: Chronicled in Dr. Suess's "The Zax"
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Yep. Enlarged prostate pushes on the bladder. Not always anything malignant. They have meds for enlarged prostate, not due to cancer. You see the ads on TV all the time now. A friend had it, said it worked great.
Me:BW, FWH 1DD 1DS
Status: Chronicled in Dr. Suess's "The Zax"
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Oh yeah, Ima, thanks for pointing that out. I was reading Cat's post and just about slapped my forehead with a "DUH"! Classic symptom.
But it is much more common in men as they get older. How old is
AW's best friend's H?
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my h also says the pee thing not physically possible. And if your BFs H USED to like OS - that means something has changed recently. Could be prostate or health issues, new stress issues or STD. doesnt mean he is currently cheating - but seeing as they are recently married - Bach party fun leading to maybe one of the dudes at party comes down with STD...then tells her H who goes and gets tested and is awaiting results...etc...
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lol, I'm reading 'Bach party fun' and thinking huh? A party with classical music...fun?
There's also the possibility that he just is having a hard time adjusting to marriage, and it's got him all flustered.
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