Your wife is hurting your DD with her affair. She is causing your DD moral confusion by teaching her that wrong is right. Telling her the truth is not "hardball" it is your obligation as her father to PROTECT HER. She needs to know this is a bad man who is not her friend.

This is the best strategy right here, toreup:

The Carrot and the Stick of Plan A by Pepperband


The carrot of Plan A

Meeting your wandering spouse's emotional needs.

Making "home" a warm and inviting place to be.

Placing emphasis on what has worked in the marriage.

Showing consistent self improvement in areas where previously lacking.

Stop lovebusting behaviors.

Communicating with a calm reassuring voice and relaxed body language, even in the center of a verbal storm created by the infidel.

Becoming the person any reasonable spouse would want to come home to.

Remaining open to the possibility of recovery.

Offering forgiveness and understanding.


The stick of Plan A

Exposing adultery where it matters most. Exposure that takes the form of a swift and sudden unexpected tsunami of truth.

Not apologizing for exposure or speaking the truth in a kind yet direct way.

Directly communicating the hurt and devastation that the affair has caused.

Not accepting blame for the infidel's choice to become adulterous.

Let the consequences of adultery and infidelity fall freely upon the heads of the adulterous.

Establishing boundaries that disallow the affair to effect children of the marriage, financal security of the marriage, and otherwise ruin innocent bystanders.

Standing up to infidelity as a beast that must be slayed for the good of the family.


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Plan A is both a *carrot* and a *stick*.

You need to expose DD. She must be told that mom is married and dating OM. Married people don't date.

Next you need to expose at work.

Why are so many people telling you this?

Because we have seen it work for the BS.

And, have seen what happens when exposure is not done.

BS? Is there a page that has all the abbreviations?