Will you care about whether or not she has that job when you're divorced? Because that's what your sitch is going to be.
NC = she quits the job and does not contact OM.
Then you'll have a chance to save your marriage. It's not going to work any other way. It's not going to 'run it's course'
Also, no one is trying to be harsh. We're just telling it to you like it is.
You should not be talking to 'close female friends' about this.

""How do i deal with my needs not being met? close female friends from before this relationship have sought me out the day after D-Day( 11yrs, 4 phone numbers over 200 miles and 5 address changes later) because they felt something was wrong with me.""

WHOA THERE BIG FELLA!!!

What are you, God's gift??

How did they "feel something was wrong with you??" Did they feel the energy alter in the ether of the universe?? Did they feel a change in the force?

Are you about ready to let the second shoe drop and let us hear the second half of the story??

We're all ears.

kirk

Im talking about my emotional needs. sorry i didn't clarify. i have been faithful to my wife since we started dating 11 yrs ago. friend one sent me an email and asked if i was alright because when she went to her psychic reading, I came up. the psychic reader and her husband know who i am, they were all friends of mine in a small town i lived in years before i met my wife. over the years i have gotten wedding/baby pics and small town news from my old friends to which i never replied. Friend two paid a search site to find me and get my phone number. She said she had gotten an Angel card reading and that she felt that I was the person from the past who was hurting according to the cards. In response, Yes, i am God's gift, to my family and my friends, and they are God's gift to me. We are all God's gift to the ones we love and the ones that love us. Sorry i am struggling with the problems that have come up in my life and asking questions on here.

Hmm...way too coincidental to me.