SMB and NOT i appreciate the input. I had a wonderful holiday season this year actually.... very relaxing. Different than ever before since i didn't have my DD on christmas day but i went to mass and helped a friend with her parents who were just released from the hospital the day before. I have known the mother for 5 years as i had worked with her. Her husband had a heart attack the week b4 christmas and through some good thoughts from many people he was able to come home in my medical care on christmas eve. The mother/wife fell on her back leg. SHe had had a knee replacement times four on this knee so she was stuck over night in the ER due to it. It was nice to be able to help a family be together on the holidays. These were the people i was supposed to go to disney world with so that got pushed back and we had a wonderful week and relaxed around town instead.

As for the gifts yes i do enjoy them. They are things that he knew i would need and like, but wouldn't necessarily spend money one. I have not talked to him or seen my WXH in over 7 months now. I am glad you pointed out that i would just be adding to the drama or getting sucked back in my giving back the gifts. Very well noted. Thank you all for you input i didn't want to get any where near that situation again. My personal healing has come to far for this.

Hoping everyone has a happy and blessed New Year!!!!!