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We have a wacky marriage. nothing is shared but the mortgage - so no bank accounts, etc...... So how does he pay his bills if he's not working? How does he eat? Are you financially supporting him AND his "vacation"? He has a Blackberry? Who pays for that? Are you seeing a pattern here and a resource for you to kill this "affair"?
Widowed 11/10/12 after 35 years of marriage
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“In a sense now, I am homeless. For the home, the place of refuge, solitude, love-where my husband lived-no longer exists.” Joyce Carolyn Oates, A Widow's Story
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atlanta,
""How can a little encounter amount to a 3 year relationship over the internet and phone calls? He says it is just phone sex""
JUSTPHONE SEX!!??
Imagine wrote ""He is in an EA. Just as damaging if not more so than a PA.""
He is in an EA??!!
I have always wondered who made this ruling.
Phone sex takes the wayward sexually away from the spouse. Any activity that stimulates one sexually to ORGASM!! including the XXX rated pictures sent back and forth counts as pretty PHYSICAL to me!!
I'm just saying.....
kirk
CORDUROY PILLOWS ARE MAKING HEADLINES!!
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We have a wacky marriage. nothing is shared but the mortgage - so no bank accounts, etc...... ac, are you legally married? Not common-law married; legally married, with a marriage certificate?
BW
Married 1989
His PA 2003-2006
2 kids.
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and he continues to find it easy to forget about me as he calls her and exchanges emails with her talking about love, compassion, and missing each other.
I have no choice but to move on! I am not going to be his doormat while he runs around. I caught him in this one instance and I can assure you there have been more! I think every BS (betrayed spouse) feels this way. 100% normal. I hope you do not give up before you know what is really going on. Sometimes people feel pummeled here, everyone is really trying to help.
Me; W 46
Him; H 46
2 girls
DD19
DD16
Dated/Married total 28 years.
..I am learning and working on myself.
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