Just for completeness and backup storae for info i have dug up. Here is the email that my WW responded to OM sister.

"Hey girl! This is OM sis in law. He said that he talked to you about me. All I can say is,

"OM got it bad". He is really in to you. He is willing to leave his wife and kids behind and

his job and start completely over with you in Atlanta. My question is: Are YOU willing to do the

same for him? I know that your marriage might stink right now, but are YOU willing to walk away

from your life and start over with OM? I told him that texts,phonecalls, and emails can be

great, but when the situation is actually in front of you, are you going to leave? I want you to

know that I am not judging anyone. I love OM and the kids, and OMW for that matter, but he

needs to be happy. No matter what the outcome is, if OM loves you, then we will love you too.

I know that you understand that I am just worried that he isn't thinking with the right head.

Have you met OMW or the kids? Do you think that you can be a good "mom" to his kids too? I'm

not really sure what all to say, I just want you guys to think about everything and know that the

drama is just beginning..."been there, done that". And I want to make sure that you hold up your

end of the deal. You can email me back if you want.
Later,"

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OH, THERE'LL BE DRAMA ALL RIGHT!

Hi All,

Sorry you are going through this. Just a tip. When you call OMW hit *67. It will hide your #. Good luck. It is not an easy call to make.

God's Blessings,

Say

Thanks SNM! I am doing that. It migh hurt me if they just let those ring. I know that OM knows our area code but i dont know if he knows some off the other ones around here. Should I borrow a friends phone that has a different area code and try it without the block?

I got the info i needed for the exposure from WW facebook account. should i go in there and change the password so she cant use it and the original email is intact?

I still havent contacted OMW yet. My WW will be home soon. So I guess I will be going to the store or something later. wink, wink.

I did tell my sister just now and I cried lake a baby without his blanket. I trust her completely not to tell, plus she has lawyer contacts helping me find a great divorce att.

Is it her account?

yes

i think i know where r going with that (?). Dont touch it!

Yeah, don't give her any ammunition to paint you as a loony tune. Leave her stuff alone. However....nothing says YOU can't set up your own account, friend her friends, and then contact all her friends to expose.

btw, you should NOT be exposing in driblets here and there. You need to stop what you're doing, sit down, and just keep calling and emailing right now, now that you've started, til you are done.

Because what's going to happen is that once that first person calls her, she'll be mad. But when the second person calls, you can BET she'll be on the phone faster than a bullet train, telling everyone ELSE to look out for you, you've finally gone over the edge, don't listen to a thing you say, she's been trying to get you to admit yourself into a psychiatric ward for all your issues.

Do it now!

Thanks Cat. But I am not dribleting! My sister means more to me than anything! I needed her. Thats all. I am being strong here. I have a facebook account. I don't see how smearing the affair for all to see isn't acting like a looney toon. I haven't gotten a hold of OMW yet. I don't want to do anything until I talk to her. RIGHT?

yep

I don't know how FB works. I was assuming you could 'email' those friends privately?

I think you can. I haven't used it all that much.

AoA, with all due respect, let the veterans here do the thinking, OK? Right now you're in your own fog (called here the emotional rollercoaster) and not in a position to make sane, rational decisions. After all, this is not a sane, rational situation! The people advising you have been there, done that, and have the t-shirts to prove it!

I resisted at first, and still feel at times that "I know better." But I don't. I do what these people tell me, because I now have FAITH that what they tell me will at least heal ME, even if my M is mortally wounded.

Ok Fred. I gotcha. I do have faith in you guys. You're right I am very anxious here. I want to get over this first hurddle (OMW) and move forward.

Just make sure that, when you do contact her, you follow it up with everyone else, within the same hour. Before your WW spins you out of control.

How do you get on the phone and of quick enough to make all those calls? What do you say to her mom and dad brother friends?

Well, maybe not all in an hour, but you know what I mean. Just keep calling, til you're done with your list.

"WW's Mom, this is allover. I'm calling because I found out WW is having an affair, and I'm trying to save our marriage. I still love her and want her, but it won't work if she keeps seeing OM. I was hoping you'd help me find a way to get through to her that she is throwing away our family for a fantasy."

Wow Cat! You have a way with words. Thank you very much! And please, if you dont mind throwing some for friends. Her friends. More than likely it may be awkward for them to trustme over her.
Is going on FB and writing on her wall too much? I think it is but I kind of a wussy at this.

Ok. a couple of things. I just called the house and got the OM. I played it like I was with a magazine. seemed to work. She wasn't home.
I got a voice recording of a conversation they had in our van. She was driving so I couldnt makee out everything. I did her WW say "you should have said BABY where have you been" and "yeah the divorce stuff whats scaring you what did you read?" And "oh really, well dont send that article to BH". And "well sometimes that becomes the case because that in love place gets filled by some else".

I'm sure you all have heard much worse. it just hurts to hear how happy and lovey she talks to him.

I know she has had sex with him.
Makes me not want her around anymore! EVER!