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Originally Posted by NCWalker
2) A divorced dad WITH his kids is a CHICK MAGNET. I have to beat the ladies off with a stick. smile My sons are very good and well behaved, and as soon as a woman hears that I have them primarily and they are so good, it means I must be the perfect man. (Even though I am really a schlep, like all the others, though I DO look good in my loin cloth). So the boys teachers, ladies at church, etc. etc. are ALWAYS trying to set me up on dates. Again, the media culture. But this time working in my favor. (If I could only get my pesky morals out of the way, I'd be having a BIG time...)

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Originally Posted by NCWalker
A divorced dad WITH his kids is a CHICK MAGNET.
As others have observed, it takes more than children for a man to be a chick magnet.

WW's XH has two and is such a repulsive personality (controlling, egotistical, arrogant, angry, slovenly and more that would take too much space to write) that since he and WW divorced (what, eight, nine years ago?) he's had only one relationship that ended abruptly, and now he's confined to being "buddies" with a mannish lesbian who's almost half his age.

No, he's not a chick magnet by any stretch of the imagination. I think he may ultimately wind up with a tattooed biker chick who weighs more than he does, drinks like a fish, and swears like a sailor.


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Hey...I'm a tattooed biker chick...

LMAO--I know what you are saying though!!

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Originally Posted by Fred_in_VA
Originally Posted by NCWalker
A divorced dad WITH his kids is a CHICK MAGNET.
As others have observed, it takes more than children for a man to be a chick magnet.

That's the whole problem. There is an aspect of this board that is a curse.

You SAY it takes more than that, and it is true, just because I have my kids, doesn't make me a great guy. But the REALITY of it, is the rest of the world is VASTLY IGNORANT of what is important. They run on feelings, with is a path to learning by experience. It's like bump-steering down a dark hall.

The reality of it is it SHOULD take more than that, but it doesn't. MOST people I meet do not understand these concepts in such a formal way. That's pretty sad.

The curse of the board is that now that I KNOW, I can spot a phony right away. And it really isn't a curse, it means the next one I pick (if she'll have me) will be a winner.

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The anger helped me. I don't know if one can really develop it...just thinking about a WS's messed up behaviors is usually enough.


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Originally Posted by Zelmo
It's always nice to excise a cancerous tumor from one's life, NC. ...

You have had it worse than me, Zelmo. I can't imagine that. I have great kids, no serious issues to deal with. I have the utmost respect for those of you raising kids with special needs, whatever they may be.

And I wouldn't refer to my ex as a cancerous tumor. We were very much in love for a while there. Had a good marriage. We were just unequally yoked. It doesn't make her a bad person, she just had a slew of bad choices I could no longer take. (She says now that she is making good choices, but I don't really pay too much attention to her current life). I hope her and OM are happy. I hope she has found someone with a temperament more in line with hers. I am just glad it's not me anymore.

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