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He is just a kid, atena. I know how it hurts when your kid doesn't get that. My XH left me for an OW and is still with her. All of their friends are perfectly fine with that so that is the example my son has learned despite what I have told him. Trying to force him to change his mind and take a stronger stance against my H's adultery is a futile mission that has only caused me hurt and grief. So I know very well where you are coming from.
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How would you like to be an "OW" who is too sleazy to be introduced to your OP's son? He had to hide her in the closet like a pair of dirty underwear.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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thank you Mel, at times I cannot believe he will spend the many years with OW! it seems so crazy. She has 2 bratty kids..and even if he introduces her to his family they all know who she is and what she did...and will look at her as a piece of trash.
Son told me H's new friends are really low life and that leaving in a small place with OW as only companion might grow old soon....of course he is underestimating the power of romantic love and of the A.
I am sad and my heart broke when son returned to the states yesterday.
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(((((atena))))),
Mel's right, he is just a kid. Try not to take much of what he says to personally. I know it's hard, but he's at a stage in his life where is trying to figure life out and will resist the knowledge of his parents. How you present yourself during this time will stay with him, even if he doesn't understand it now.
You need to take care of yourself. It is imparative if not for you then for your son. He needs to have at least one sane, moral parent in his life......
So what are you going to do for yourself today??
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