I do not see a man with a porn adiction, I see a man looking for a realease.


Your Husband needs sex, it builds resentment in him for you when you turn him down.
(Trust me, I know)

You don't like, and dont want to have sex. Doing so builds resentment in you for him.


Your Marriage is doomed if you don't find a middle ground.

You need a good therapist for Individual counseling for you who specilizes in sexual problems/No desire.

And you need a good Marriage counseler for both of you so you can reconnect with each other.

L2,

Me too, that was hilarious!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

barnboy,

I know this isn't the proper place, but you need to delve into this website and MAKE your wife watch the movies. They are easy, VERY WELL RESEARCHED BY SCIENTISTS THAT WERE LDS, note: were. This may help your relationship with WW very much.

http://www.livinghopeutah.org/

Speaking from the other side, there is a possibility he is a sex/porn addict. Making yourself MORE available to him for sex when it is not something you want to do is not going to help the situation.

Addicts use an external tool/pleasure to keep themselves numb. Some use gambling, other's...drugs or alcohol, and some use sex/mb.

Reading your situation it is hard to tell what is going on, but sex with a Sex addict is no fun. You are simply a body to them, something to be used and then cast aside afterwards.

So which came first, your lack of libido that encouraged him to seek out pleasure elsewhere, or his lack of intimacy that dropped your libido? Hard to say, but based on his activity before you came in the picture I would say he already had the start of a sex addiction.

Read, "Out of the Shadows", and see if find some truth in there. There are Co-Sex Addicts groups for partners of Sex Addicts, called COSA.

Good Luck.

I think Gack has it right. He's using porn to help him with self-satisfaction. I doubt very highly that he's addicted.

I also seriously doubt that the OP intends to return. She hasn't written anything since her original post.