They now have SKYPE phones. Wow. Where was this technology when I had friends all over the world?????

http://shop.skype.com/phones/#mobiles

SKYPE is free. Or a few cents a minute depending on the country.

My MIL has been diagnosed with cancer today - I don't have all the details yet - WH and I were just texting about X-mas when she rang him

I'm so sorry.

Thank you catperson

Sorry BS4U about your MIL

Thanks a lot sortingitout - she is in hospital right now having an operation - I hope it's a good sign that they operated so quickly.Like WH said: " A perfect ending to an already sh*t year"

Well, if he is having a &^%% year, HE is the one who "dotted the I" in sh*% ! You have worked your best, and I hope everything works out well for you and MIL.

I should have an upate on the operation this evening

thanks barbiecat and you are so right - he could have turned the year around easily. I wonder how the next year will turn out.
I wonder sometimes if he is aware that he "dotted the i" - he is so full of hate - I will probably never understand it.

I am preparing a few baby steps right now - I am starting an evening course in February, just for me - looking forward to it.

WH just texted that the operation went well - I am relieved

He is flying into Ireland on Tuesday

Good news then

Hi everyone, I need advice - I am honestly at the end of knowing what to do

I sent a message to WH's co-worker yesterday and asked her to send me an email so I could ask her some questions.

She went straight to WH and told him. I just got the following message: "Have just found out that you have contacted my co-worker through facebook.Why can't you just leave me have some friends that you don't frighten away?"


All I want is the truth and I just don't know how to get it - I am running against closed doors everywhere - the last 8 months have been utter hell - I am so helpless... even Plan B is not going to help as it will not give me the truth either.

Warning: major 2x4's coming your way.

bestrong, really, will you please get yourself to a counselor and learn how to deal with this need to know "the truth"? This is not a healthy phenomenon for you to be in. Because you have no control over it.

Sure, in a perfect world, we would ALL get "the truth" about whatever we want to know about.

But you are NOT in a perfect world. You can't keep going around PRETENDING you can get "the truth" any more. You can't.

You are betrayed. YOU ARE BETRAYED.

You therefore do NOT get to have what you want any more. You get to DEAL with what you CAN get, ok?

It is your job to now sit down and realize that THIS LIFE is now your reality. You don't call the shots in this marriage; you never did. You controlled YOUR HALF of the marriage, and trusted that he would pull his weight for the other half.

Now you know better.

But that doesn't mean you get to call HIS shots now, any more than you could before. Even less, really, because he is no longer interested in pleasing you.

It's time to stop this, bestrong. It's time to grieve, accept what you can and can't have in life, and move on.

Cat said it all

Where did you go BS4U? Are things better?

Hi sortingitout, Happy New Year

Not much has happened - had a job Interview Friday and really hope to get it - should hear back this week.

WH is back abroad - he spent X-Mas in Ireland and spent time with the kids.I am not sure when he is going to be back - we haven't spoken since X-mas.

I forgot where you are in your marriage reconciliation plans. Are you going to a counselor for yourself? From what I remember you were being gaslighted and treated like a servant and His excuse was you spent some money basically.

Hope youand the Children are doing OK.

Hi,

great news - I got the job and am starting on Monday
6 hours a day at first and after 6 weeks full - time.

Actually I wanted to ask everyone's opinions on something else:

Would you believe this story?

Wife goes through husbands phone and finds in his sent items texts to another woman - here husband's eplanation:
He went to the pub with a mate of his and the mate's phone's battery went dead - so he borrowed husbands phone to send texts to his girlfriend. Mate takes his SIM and puts it into husbands phone and sends the texts.
Wife bursts into tears and asks husband if he is sure that story is true. Husband gets really mad, storms upstairs and starts packing his suitcase and threatens to leave the wife. She pleads and beggs and cries and he finally stops packing and stays.

Would you believe the husband?
Interested in responses.

no