No animals were harmed in the making of the jokes told on this thread.

(sheepish - he!)

I've been watching too much Planet Green.

My brain was harmed...

Sure!!
Me and FWW would be glad to have you as our guests

What can I say, I'm a simple man with simple wants

Are there really turtles it that there uh turtle wax?

No one dun told me dat..

Yes, there are turtles in turtle wax.

And baby powder is made from real babies.

lokil,
Let me tell you if I may, how this could turn out if you ignore what these good folks are telling you.

My Fww was much like you in that she had no intension of ever telling me of her A with her boss. The a was over and like you, she was convinced I would never find out. She even asked her OM if he had any STD's. Unbelievably shocking, HE LIED!!!!!

Within six months of the a ending, guess who was forming, shall we say, peculiarities on the private part of my body. Of course, I was absolutely sure it could not be an STD as my Fww of 32 years would never ever do that to me and our M.

After telling my wife of this strange growth, she actually encouraged me to make an appt with my friend and family physician and put this anxiety to rest. So I made the appt.

The very day I was schedueld, she contacted her OM and asked and insisted on the whole truth re his health. He finally admitted that he had that disease but had taken care of it years earlier(duhhhh!).

Now my Fww was in PANIC MODE, as she began to realize that I may indeeed have an STD and she KNEW I had been faithful. If I wasn't, then I would be trying to hide it.

My friend and family physician who knew and treated my entire family for over 20 years, took one look and declared "You have and HPV infection." MY knees buckled and he had to grab me and sit me in the chair. He looked at me and said have you been.... and I answered NO! His only reply was Oh, i'm so sorry. I asked if there was any chance he was wrong, considering what was at stake. He just shook his head and said "no."

When I left that office I went to a liquor store and purchased a bottle, got home and proceeded to get drunk. I had lost what I felt was my whole life that day, why preserve the 16 years of sobriety?? Nothing mattered anymore.

Had the big talk with Fww and she broke down in tears, admitted some of what had occured(claimed it was a drunken ons, only to find out the full extent years later) and we went into a wait and see mode, not knowing if we could now save our M.

What these folks are telling you is true, it hurt 1000 times more finding out the way I did. Is this what you would risk your BH facing down the road.

The only solution and help for this is honesty. Without it, this will be a festering wound for the rest of your M.

Have courage,

All Blessings,
Jerry

Don't even get me started on the letter I wrote the the Girl Scout Council.

Ewwwww...I am learnin soo much from dis here marriage website

Der waaat??!!!

But...if you were taller...with long legs...wouldn't that make you really, really tall?

You mean you aren't???

I think a lot of animals were harmed by this thread.

Okay. So now you know the little secret. It isn't going to be okay. You've rewritten all your marital rules, now. All by your selfish little self. And you don't even respect your BH enough to let him know that everything he thought was right and safe about his marriage is a lie.

Don't expect my vote for Wife of the Year. Don't expect my sympathy, either, if you plan to snow your H over this terrible crime that you have committed against him.

I'm out of popcorn.

Do I get a year's supply of popcorn if I'm the 200th poster on this thread?

I think all our talks of honesty freaked her right outta here.

I am not a monster,I'm a person who made a horrible drunken mistake our marriage is good and we are very in love with eachother, thank you all for your advice i have some thinking and reading to do.